Advice Please!!!!!

[Mummy120494]

Hi there ! Ok so my son is nearly 8 months old , and he still cannot self soothe, I would literally have to have him on his nursing pillow and bounce up and down on the end of the sofa or bed , and 9/10 times Aswel as doing that, I would have to be breast feeding him at the same time as bouncing just to get him to sleep !

He will not drift off to sleep by him self !
He has a routine he will have his dinner at about 6, have a bath chill out for 30 mins then he starts rubbing his eyes and yawning so obviously he's getting tired !
At this point I've tried putting him in his cot kissed him goodnight and left the room, coming back in when he's rolled over or pulled the blanket over his head and left the room again , I could be doing this for a good hour and eventually he just starts getting pissy and cries! so at this point obviously I take him out bring him into my bedroom
Do my bouncy thing on the bed with him and sure enough he's asleep in minutes!

I don't want him to rely on my doing this I want him to be able to self soothe without me! He also won't take a dummy trust me I've tried!

Any advice of what to do ?? What did you do if you had a similar problem ! Please help!!!

I don't think an 8 month old can use a blanket safely - I would swap that for a warmer sleepsuit or sleeping bag for a start ;-)

Then I think you would need to break the "feed and bounce to sleep" association. I know it's easier said than done...

@Sandrine1982 thankyou for the reply ! My HV said blankets are fine to use aslong as there just tucked under there arms I've tried sleep suits on him but he doesn't seem to like them very much ! I no I really do need to break it and trust me I've tried so many times to just put him in his bed without doing it but he just lays there winding himself up for hours lol 😂 x

@Mummy120494 Training your baby to self soothe is a battle that alot of parents face!
It sounds like your baby struggles to self soothe alone, and needs alot of interaction to be able to feel safe when he is falling to sleep. You can read an awful lot of information on the internet but this can be confusing and appear not to work when you are working alone!
A little tip I would suggest is putting your little boy to bed a little earlier. It sounds like he is getting overtired! If you would like anymore tips please get in touch.
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@BabySleepStarzzz hi thankyou for you reply ! Yes I've spent hours reading about baby sleep advice online and I did pick up on putting him to sleep earlier which I have managed to do tonight he was In bed for 7 woke up once since then but usually he wakes up a lot more . I'm going to gradually try and stop
Rocking him to sleep I just don't want him
Relying on me to sleep especially with a baby on the way ! 😬

I'm so pleased you both had a better night! Sometimes it's the little things that make the biggest difference.
I was struggling with being tired and looking after my baby. I had searched advice online but when putting these things into practice nothing seemed to be working completely, although I did see some small improvements.
I decided to train to be a sleep consultant so I was able to study my babys sleep and pattern and decide the best path to use. I have never looked back! My little girl has slept through from 4.5 months old (now 11months). Good luck with the new arrival 😊