P is going to leave me if I cannot stop DS from sharing our bed!

[Koshka]

Help please!

My DS is 14 months old, and from the time he started teething to now he wakes up around 2/3am and he comes into bed with me.

P has now told me that this is not acceptable, as he is too tired for work from being awoken from DS and also he avoids coming to bed because of it.

I need help really! DS would not sleep at all last night (he was really hot and sweaty and he had terrible nappy rash poor love) so we both slept on the settee in the living room, as I was too scared to come to bed.

What is the best thing to do? We share a room with DS as we live with my mum and there isnt any room.

I need help with a completely new routine I suppose, which is going to be hard!

Thank you for reading I will appreciate any advice at all!

Koshka, this guy isn't ds' dad is he? I thought you and he had broken up months ago and he was moving out ...

If this is him, it's just one in a very long line of examples of why he's a loser.

Hold on a minute sweetheart.

You have major stress in your life, trying to juggle the needs of your baby and the wishlist of an immature manchild. The answer is not going to be to numb your natural emotional responses to stress with medication so that you don't feel miserable with the situation. Don't get me wrong. I would never knock the meds, I used them, they were great.

BUT

Don't confuse unease and misery with a horrible situation with PND. PND is numbness and misery where numbness and misery have no right to be. It sounds like you have every right to be miserable, you are under a lot of pressure by someone you love to do something you don't want to do to someone else you love. It sounds HIDEOUS! And being miserable about that isn't PND, it's normal.

You do what you feel you want to do. But I will say this - a 'man' who will threaten to leave you over something so petty will keep you in thrall of his leaving to control you and control what you do.

And, and I realise you certainly won't like to hear this, and I may well be wrong, I would not even consider leaving my baby overnight with someone so compassionless and blind to the emotional needs of babies. No way, jose. It's asking for trouble./

He sounds like a complete wanker to me

thanks guys.

trib - he is Dss dad. And your right.

Inmyhumbleopinoin - my mum lives with us and is a nosy cow and shes in charge really of DS if im at work!

Oh god is he my ex?

I had this all along with him, everything we did was wrong, light on at night, discipline, you name it, Ds was the baddie and I was supposed to listen to my partner above all else.

In the end he kept leaving for days and I ditched him while pregnant with his child - he wanted a way out. He never even came to see the baby.
I'm sorry you're having this problem, please, please do what I didn't do, stand up for your mothering instincts as your precious babies will be little for such a short time and if you bow to this man's jealousy, you'll always regret it...and be the one sat next to a sleepless ds all night...and forever being told what to do, as it may well get worse

Good luck x

Agree with everything Franny said.

Your P needs to grow a pair quite frankly.

Bloody hell, koshka, why are you still with this utter loser? I'm not even going to repeat what he did when we last spoke (don't know if you've had the thread deleted) but surely this is now your out. Just keep taking ds to bed and kick p's sorry arse out of the door. For good.

could you put ds cot next to your bed with the side down so he feels like he's in bed with you?

NA, that's a good idea but the thing is her partner is a knobhead , so I think whatever she does is going to be 'not good enough'