Please help with sleep training for the second time

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So we did controlled crying at around 7 months & Ds took to it amazingly. He started to sleep through without a bottle all night from around 8 months & we were in heaven. BUT from 9 months it all went Pete tong & he has been waking up very frequently since then, (he is now 12 months 😭). Due to this we have unfortunately got ourselves into a co sleeping habit which I never wanted to start but it's the only way we get a decent-ish sleep. Now he's 1 and starting nursery I really want him back in a good routine & sleeping in his own bed. Tonight I've put him down and just left him scream. I don't know what else to do 😭 I hate it! We've tried everything, most recently tried him with a duvet rather than sleeping bag as he hates them! I think he might be struggling to get his top teeth through as he's biting me all the time. Agh when will it end! Any advice welcome..

If he's teething, have you tried painkillers? The top front teeth are particularly painful, all 3 of my DC have needed a combination of both Calpol (at bedtime) and ibuprofen (whenever they next wake up) to get them to do anything vaguely resembling decent sleep.

Is he still eating properly, they can go off their solid food when teething and them being hungry doesn't help with sleep either....

Ashton & Parmers teething sachet before bed.
Do you go back in at times intervals when he’s crying? It will be harder than the first time as they more stubborn the older they get. But as with before consistency is key, same bed time, same routine, even the same phrases. Night light or mobile in the room?

Awww it is tough when you aren't getting sleep but its totally normal for kids to have sleep regressions as they develop. Their brains are all on overdrive from learning new skills and it leads to disturbed sleep. Please don't just leave him to cry :(

I believe in doing what gets everyone the most sleep, when my son was 1 it was letting him get in with us when he woke up in the night. He's 3 now and still climbs in with us 4/5 in the morning. But we know that he won't be doing this when he is a teenager and it makes night time so much less stressful.

Have a read on sleep regression and it might make you feel a bit better that your boy is behaving like a normal baby :)

@LivingDeadGirlUK hello! I don't mind him coming in with us early morning but he's been so unsettled I've been putting him in with us as early as 8pm recently just to get him to sleep. He's exhausted today after a full day in nursery but still waking up a lot. I've given calpol but don't want to give it every single night really. X

Over tired op, what’s his day routine like nap wise?
Also what’s considered “normal” in terms of regression and waking up isn’t necessarily what’s best for anyone, the child or the parents. We all have to function and I don’t believe in making a long term rod for your back. You know your baby, you know if he is unwell, teething or just struggling with a change to routine.

Hi OP, I had a cot-hater with ds1 and we actually ditched the cot altogether at about 13mo. We put a double mattress on the floor in his room and he slept there - he was much comfier and it meant one of us could re-settle him in there without bringing him back to our bed. He still is in a double bed at 3yo! It feels extravagant but honestly it works for us and he took to it much better than a cot which he never slept well in.

What's his motor skills like? Can he pull to standing? Can he lie back down when he stands up, without help?

@OnlyFoolsnMothers he naps well in the day , 2 1.5 hr naps usually. @FATEdestiny he is walking, motor skills are very good for his age I'd say xx

@OnlyFoolsnMothers he naps well in the day , 2 1.5 hr naps usually. @FATEdestiny he is walking, motor skills are very good for his age I'd say xx