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Any advice for 12 month old?

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CursesAndMagic · 11/07/2020 12:15

She’s always slept independently and self settled to sleep for naps and nighttime. Two weeks ago she started refusing naps. She gets up around 7:30am and will refuse any nap before lunch no matter what time I try. She’s rolling, standing, staring blankly, crying, screaming, throwing dummy out and does the same if I hold her she doesn’t want me or her dad at these times. It’s been around 5-6 days now of this period and when she does nap it’s never long enough. Yesterday she refused morning nap went down no problem at 1pm slept until 1:45 and refused any other naps. Bed at 7 and straight asleep independently but then woke at 11 needed a cuddle and Calpol and settled at 12:30 slept until 7:40. Tried for her nap at 9:40, 10:30 and she’s just settled for a nap now at 12pm but I don’t imagine she will sleep long.

I don’t understand what this is. She has two bottom teeth and four top teeth. Seems to have teething symptoms but is fine when up and in the day apart from trying to bite everything. I’ve tried leaving her to cry. Leaving her for 10 minutes, 15 minutes but she doesn’t sleep. I’ve had days where it’s been two hours of her just rolling and staring and I’ve ended up getting her up. When she had slept for a nap it’s been 20-40 minutes. She’s cranky sometimes other times she copes quite well. Do I just stop trying her for morning nap? I did this two weeks ago and she started fighting bedtime and it would take at least 3 hours to get her asleep for bed. Then she kinda fell back in falling asleep independently and having two good naps a day with perfect bedtimes sleeping through 12 hours. I feel 12pm is too early for her morning nap if it’s going to be her only nap of the day. She was exhausted last time I tried just one nap and things got worse until she cooperated with two naps. I’m fighting with her to try and get her to nap at least three times a day because her naps are so short and then sometimes she’s up at night.

What the holy hell do I do?

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CursesAndMagic · 11/07/2020 12:51

I should add that she does nap sometimes fine with no issues but it’s later so she will only have one nap those days and usually not long enough

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BabySleepTeacherUK · 11/07/2020 15:29

The move from 2-nap days to 1-nap days needs to be done gradually. If you just suddenly went from having two naps a day consistantly to having one nap consistantly, you'll get lots of over tiredness issues.

The transition wants to take 1 - 2 months, whereby you interperce occasional 1-nap days with mostly 2-nap days, until it becomes mostly 1-nap days with occasional (and eventually none) 2-nap days.

If you have 4 top and 2 bottom teeth, you have another two to cut, could well be that.

Really important at this age to introduce independence of movement and instruction following. So put her in the cot standing up (every time) and ask her to lie down. Then set high expectations of behaviour that you will consistantly insist she lies herself back down when it's sleep time.

Teacaketotty · 11/07/2020 15:58

PP is right about the transition of naps, we have been having the same issue as yourself and it seems to have settled down now. We had 2/3 weeks of constant over/undertiredness and grumpy days but DD is much much better now. Is there a growth spurt around 12 months? But we have some days of 1 and some days 2 naps just going by what she needs on the day.

If she has two naps it’s 9:30 then 1:30 for an hour or so each, if it’s one is nearer 12:30 for 2 hours maybe more.

Also as PP said I put her in the crib standing and get her to settle and lie herself down so she’s pretty independent that way but if she really freaks I know she’s not tired enough.

Honestly I would put it down to a phase, famous last words!, I’m sure it will get better like I say I did have this problem for a good couple weeks but we are through it now. I know it’s a nightmare 😴😴

CursesAndMagic · 11/07/2020 16:29

Well after my post she slept an hour 10 mins at 12 then was really really cranky at 3 gave snack and she didn’t perk up screaming so took her up to bed and straight asleep for another hour 🤔 strange creatures these babies hahaha. I think there is growth spurt. No she’s generally okay I lay her down and then say goodnight and generally she will just spend some time staring around getting comfortable and then she will sleep so I don’t have an issue usually

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