I'm a zombie - 2.5 month old never sleeps over 45 mins

[Greenwhale]

My 2.5 month old is exclusively breast fed and falls asleep on the boob almost all the time for naps and bed time.
She had started to do 2-4hours at a time over night but for the last couple of weeks this has started to go out of the window and she seems to wake up with every sleep cycle at 40 mins. By the time she is deep enough for me to transfer her to her crib I perhaps have 20 minutes to grab some sleep before she wakes again and the process begins again.
I generally feed her with every wake for her to fall asleep even if it's just a 5 minute comfort suck as this is the most effective and quiet way to get her to sleep so as not to wake the rest of the house.
She naps 5-7 times a day generally after feeding for 5-60 minutes tops. If I'm holding her, this definetely extends sleep to the hour mark.
I'm reluctant at the moment to use a dummy (can just see this creating another set of problems for us to eventually manage even if down the line) but appreciate perhaps I just need to give in to this.
Any advice? Or is it a case of persevering and she'll grow out of it? Not sure how sustainable this is for months and months to come.

I have a six week-old (third baby) and bedshare. All safety guidelines followed to the letter so very safe indeed (see Lullaby Trust/Unicef for further info). We pretty much sleep "through" (I breastfeed on demand but this is super easy as she just latches on) and OH never wakes!!

Not sure if this would be an option for you but as it works so wonderfully for us I thought I'd mention it.

Hope things get better sleepwise for you soon

Hi. My son did 45min to 2.5 hour stretches until he was 8 months old. I currently have a 6 week old dd. At the moment she's doing the same.

It's just how some babies are. There's no magic solution. I tried everything with ds. Dummy helped. He still has one now though at 2 years old. When he was fully weaned, and I stopped breastfeeding and we did some very light sleep training (at 6 months) only then did he start doing better 3/4 hour stretches. He was sleeping through by 9 months.

2.5 months is really young. Not a lot you can do. It will get better though. I'd be tempted to have your partner (if you have one) give a formula bottle occasionally at night, so you can get some sleep. Maybe on the weekends if they're working?

Sorry know that this is not great news. It's so hard, but your baby will start sleeping more when they're ready. It won't be hunger most of the time waking them. Look for other possibilities (comfort, has, reflux, etc) good luck and try to nap

Hi. My son did 45min to 2.5 hour stretches until he was 8 months old. I currently have a 6 week old dd. At the moment she's doing the same.

It's just how some babies are. There's no magic solution. I tried everything with ds. Dummy helped. He still has one now though at 2 years old. When he was fully weaned, and I stopped breastfeeding and we did some very light sleep training (at 6 months) only then did he start doing better 3/4 hour stretches. He was sleeping through by 9 months.

2.5 months is really young. Not a lot you can do. It will get better though. I'd be tempted to have your partner (if you have one) give a formula bottle occasionally at night, so you can get some sleep. Maybe on the weekends if they're working?

Sorry know that this is not great news. It's so hard, but your baby will start sleeping more when they're ready. It won't be hunger most of the time waking them. Look for other possibilities (comfort, has, reflux, etc) good luck and try to nap

Hi. My son did 45min to 2.5 hour stretches until he was 8 months old. I currently have a 6 week old dd. At the moment she's doing the same.

It's just how some babies are. There's no magic solution. I tried everything with ds. Dummy helped. He still has one now though at 2 years old. When he was fully weaned, and I stopped breastfeeding and we did some very light sleep training (at 6 months) only then did he start doing better 3/4 hour stretches. He was sleeping through by 9 months.

2.5 months is really young. Not a lot you can do. It will get better though. I'd be tempted to have your partner (if you have one) give a formula bottle occasionally at night, so you can get some sleep. Maybe on the weekends if they're working?

Sorry know that this is not great news. It's so hard, but your baby will start sleeping more when they're ready. It won't be hunger most of the time waking them. Look for other possibilities (comfort, has, reflux, etc) good luck and try to nap

Hi. My son did 45min to 2.5 hour stretches until he was 8 months old. I currently have a 6 week old dd. At the moment she's doing the same.

It's just how some babies are. There's no magic solution. I tried everything with ds. Dummy helped. He still has one now though at 2 years old. When he was fully weaned, and I stopped breastfeeding and we did some very light sleep training (at 6 months) only then did he start doing better 3/4 hour stretches. He was sleeping through by 9 months.

2.5 months is really young. Not a lot you can do. It will get better though. I'd be tempted to have your partner (if you have one) give a formula bottle occasionally at night, so you can get some sleep. Maybe on the weekends if they're working?

Sorry know that this is not great news. It's so hard, but your baby will start sleeping more when they're ready. It won't be hunger most of the time waking them. Look for other possibilities (comfort, has, reflux, etc) good luck and try to nap

Sorry. Don't know why that posted 100 times

@Nicknamegoeshere glad to hear cosleeping is helping you! I have been doing this for the last few hours of the night to try and bank a few more z's and it definetely helps. Little one isn't great at finding my nipple without my assistance though so I certainly need to keep waking, but she definetely resettles better than if in her crib. Perhaps I'll move to this a bit more if things don't improve but a bit like the dummy, I can't help but think it creates another issue to resolve later to get her out of our bed!

@OnSilverStars thanks for your honesty, it's nice to know there's perhaps light at the end of the 9 month tunnel! I have been hoping that the chances are if I have another baby that they would be a better sleeper so I'm sad to hear you went through this lack of sleep twice!
We have been trying to work on her accepting the bottle so he can help with feeds but she's not having any of it unfortunately, but we keep trying a couple of times a week so hopefully she'll eventually accept it and it let's me get some extra hours and her sleeping a bit longer

Personally I'd try a dummy! My DD has terrible colic, never took to a dummy. It slept 13 hours from around 14 weeks old after colic subsided.
DS was ok with colic but didn't sleep well. A dummy helped, but I did stop him with a dummy beyond around 8 months,
Once he started spitting it out at night - still wasn't a great sleeper til around 2.5 years (woke 1-3 times every night) but he did have long spells of sleeping during most nights ... I learnt to sleep early and grab the sleep
I could asap and DH would feed him if he woke before midnight -1am
When DH went to bed - it wasn't ideal but it worked for us

I can see why you don't want to, but personally I'd try a dummy. We introduced one on the advice of the nurses when DS had to go into hospital at a week old and it definitely helped him to settle. He's nearly 18 months now and only has the dummy to fall asleep (then it drops out). I figure we'll address getting rid of it at some point when he's a little bit older and I can properly explain to him that it's going away 🤷🏼‍♀️