Someone please help!

[DaniX91]

I have a 19 week old baby girl who up until 4/5 weeks ago would go to sleep in her own bed no problem at all, this has now changed 😫. She used to go in her nest in the next to me awake and would happily settle herself to sleep, but now whenever she is put into it on a night she becomes inconsolable! Sobbing to the point of nearly vomiting if left and I can't bear to see her like that. She'll fall asleep on my bed and starts crying as soon as she's put into her cot. I've tried putting her in awake, drowsy and asleep and everytime she screams. I've heard about sleep regression and I do think she went through it because she started waking at 3am again which she hadn't done for months but she's now sleeping through again so why is she still hating her own bed. I know I'm making a rod for my own back but she's been sleeping in her nest in my bed and she sleeps for 8 hours solid, so why won't she sleep in it in her cot?! I'm dreading moving her into her own room in the next couple of months cos I think there will be hell on!

What about trying her without the nest in the next to me? Also when are you trying to put her down,maybe as she’s being more curious she wants a later bedtime?

Forgot to add that 90% of the time she'll happily sleep in her next to me after her first feed on a morning. I don't think the nest is the problem because she'll sleep in it on a morning and in the bed beside me 🙄. It's anywhere between 8.30/9 and she must be tired because she'll sleep on our bed, wakes sobbing when moved then falls straight back to sleep once she's lifted out.

It sounds like by the time bedtime comes around, she's over tired.

Just like most people, when you're exhausted and sleep deprived you are less tolerant of things and much more easily grumpy.

The comparison to her morning nap, whereby she's not exhausted and sleep deprived at that point, following her long nights sleep. For her first nap she is "just tired" rather than over-tired. That is the sweet spot for it being easier to put baby down.

So, sounds like baby needs mire daytime sleep in order to be not over-tired by evening. What is her daytime sleep routine currently like?

@BabySleepTeacherUK I wouldn't really say there's a pattern to her daytime sleeping. She doesn't have a dummy or get rocked to sleep, sometimes she'll fall asleep while being breastfed (which maybe she's using as a dummy) and sometimes she'll fall asleep playing on her playmat so I'm not particularly worried about her getting herself to sleep because I know she can do it. Maybe I'll start logging her sleep during the day then check for a pattern. I'd say roughly she'll sleep at around 11.30, then maybe 3.30/4 and then again anywhere between 6 and 7. Sometimes it's for 10 minutes only, sometimes an hour.
Is it ok to put her into the next to me and for us to go downstairs on a night (we have a camera) or is she too young for this?

How would you feel like giving her a dummy, to help her sleep? Dummies are absolutely amazing as a gentle way to get babies sleeping more easily.

Babies this age dont want to be awake for longer than 2h at a time. It might be only 90 minutes. You dont necessarily need a routine, but it is worth keeping an eye on how long it is since baby woke up last.

What I'd do is once baby has been awake for about 90 minutes, give her a dummy as she is lying on the play mat and leave her too it. It may help her drop off to sleep.