My 2yr old is a w@nker

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Obviously I don’t mean and love her with every inch of me but Jesus she’s becoming challenging.

She’s very nearly 2 in 3 weeks actually I’ve been so excited to give her the presents and see her little face but since 2 weeks ago I’m no longer excited !! In fact opposite I’m dreading the more attitude that’ll be coming with the terrible twos.

Narrow it down

She hits me when I’m trying to settle her, she will ask to go for naps or to bed during the day and I have no issues putting her down she’ll sleep for 30 mins ish maybe a hour and then she’s awake being very independent and screaming the house down if for instance I won’t let her put her head in the oven to play 😩 I’m doing all the quiet time to ignoring and walking away the time out and nothing... her screams are piercing to the point I’m
Having to apologise to our neighbours. At night time I try my best to stay to a routine of no later that 7:30pm this is when I’ll try and make
Bedtime fun read her stories let her choose which teddy she will take to bed.. she’s absolutely knackered too and has bags under her eyes but as soon as she’s in the cot all hell brakes loose 👿 screaming crying, throwing everything out of her cot, jumping in her cot it actually sounds like the ceiling is going to come through.

I’m currently 34 weeks pregnant and dreading my
Baby being here just cos I know this is
Going to upset her routine ( what routine ? ) up.

I’m I Am sat on end of my bed most nights crying at a loss disliking my own child who I love so much. What else can I do ? Plz any advise would be appreciated.

I am literally begging for help and advise right now.

Do you have a dh that can help?
If she is clean )nappy) fed and had a story you may need to do controlled crying. Theres a really helpful book out there by Christopher Green called Toddler Taming. I feel your pain, I had twins who were bad sleepers ! x

Yes I have DH and like me he’s at a loss. I can’t even imagine how hard that was with twins... you lady are a warrior lol I’m going to look for that book now thank you I’m willing to try anything xx

This sounds like my nephew. He was terrible. Wouldnt settle down etc. Kept screaming. Running around because he didn't want to go to sleep. Baby sister arrived and he is the calmest boy ever! Keeps telling us to be quiet because baby is sleeping. He just minds his own business, plays quietly. I was sooo shocked.

She may be feeling anxious or confused or excited about the impending baby, or all 3 even.
I would carry on with a strict routine and whatever method you decide to go with in terms of any sleep training stick with it. Once she knows you’ll both react in the same way every time and every night is the same, she’ll hopefully calm down.
When my DC went through this I sat with them but totally ignored them, and eventually they calmed down, it gradually took less and less time each night. I didn’t feel I could do controlled crying and actually leave the room, I could cope with it knowing that they could see I was there and would have to go to sleep eventually. Maybe try an earlier bedtime too for a week to see if she’s getting overtired.

YY to Toddler Taming. I had a non-sleeping DD and I found that book really helpful for sorting out a reasonable sleeping pattern (eventually) with her.

Take the sides off the cot. Did wonders for dd

Going to upset her routine ( what routine ? )

I would start off with having your meals to a routine - for the whole family, it will help you all.

So have a 1h window in which you have breakfast, lunch and dinner. And stick to this every day, 7 days a week, for all of you.

It will help bring some organisation to your day.

A good toddler friendly meal routine would be:

7am-8am breakfast
12pm-1pm lunch
5pm-6pm dinner

You could go further and have set times for meals. For example 7.30am, 12.30pm, 5.30pm.

I could of posted this myself a few weeks back.. devil 18month old and 32 weeks pregnant.. at one point I actually wondered why the hell I chose to have another child!!

He was waking at 4am, screaming and tantruming to get exactly what he wanted and I decided enough was enough.. have managed to start to create some kind of routine.. it is so hard.. I basically made a plan.. and that is what we stick to whether he screams, cries demands.. it's starting to work!!

We get up no earlier than 6.30.. even if I have to sit in his room, slowly his wake time got later and later.
Breakfast at 7. Fruit for a snack at 10. Lunch at 12. Nap at 12.30.. this was a battle, I started sitting in his room pretty much the whole time but gradually he settled quicker, he does now go straight down with no hassle! Wake no later than 3.. snack when he wakes. Dinner at 5.. bed at 7.30.

It wasn't easy and I cried my way through the early stages but it really does pay off to have a good routine.
Also, we forget that lockdown will effect them too.. it's all different and much harder to keep them stimulated and wear them out. X