Advice needed. We recently (3 weeks ago) transitioned our 13 month old from cosleeping to a montessori style floor bed in her own room. Prior to the move, she had her twice daily naps in there fine for weeks.
We have a good bedtime routine but I don't think she's ever learnt to transition from one sleep cycle to the next without myself or my husband there to help sooth her back asleep. She wakes almost every 45mins, and crawls out of her bed to her safety gate at her door and calls for us. We will go in and pop her back in her bed with her dummy and she's asleep within minutes for another 45 mins.
I know that as we stay with her at the beginning whilst she falls asleep, we have created a sleep association so when she wakes she needs us there to help.
How do I help her and change the sleep association so she can fall asleep on her own and stay asleep or at least transition between sleep cycles herself.
We've tried Cry it out and it was awful to the point she was in a horrible red faced very distressed state...even only after 2 minute cycles of going in settling her then leaving again for about 30 mins overall.
Any advice is much appreciated. We have a dim night light for her, a sound machine and she didn't take to any loveys or soothes except for a dummy. She has dinner, quiet play time, bath then bottle and bed shortly after. She's also starting nursery in 4 weeks too!