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8 Month Old Boy - Standing Up In Cot & Sleeping In Our Bed

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IdyCheung · 30/06/2020 14:57

Hi

We have an 8 month old boy. Until recently he's been a great sleeper with no issues at bedtime. Can anyone help us with either of these 2 problems please ?

  1. Since he's learnt to stand up by himself, we have difficulty getting him to lie down at bedtime (8pm). He just wants to stand up and bounce. We've resorted to holding him in our arms until he falls asleep but we are aware this is not a long term solution.

  2. He is now waking up around 3am every night and does not want to go back to sleep. He stands in his cot crying for attention but when picked up he will push against my chest and wriggle a lot. The only solution we've found is to allow him into our bed and after a long story he will, eventually, fall asleep in our bed.

Hope someone has some advice for us. Thanks everyone. We'd love to be able to put him into his cot while awake and read a story to him while he falls asleep as we did perfectly well until this last month.

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BabySleepTeacherUK · 04/07/2020 13:08

Now is the time for teaching your little one to follow instructions and developing gross motor skills (bear with me, this is relevant to your sleep issue)

You will be surprised how much your 8 month old understands, even without the verbal skills to talk.

Start with games in the daytime. See what he understands. Things like "where's your nose/lips/hands etc" Also play "stand up, sit down" and similar games - just tell him (as a game) to stand up, clap when he follows your instruction. Tell him to sit down, lie down, roll over etc. All the Simon Says type instructions, but without the "Simon Says..." bit at the start (which would be quite complex strategy for an 8 month old to understand). Babies and toddlers are keen to please so you shouldn't be getting any sullenness - if he is physically able to and understands your instruction, he should follow it as long as you make it fun with smiles and praise.

You want to get to the stage where
(a) he physically can go from standing to sitting to lying down without any help
(b) he understand what you want him to do when you say "lie down"
(c) he knows how to follow simple instructions

From that start point, completely stop lying him down in the cot. Always, every time you put him, put him in standing up. Tap the mattress and tell him to "lie down" - have him do it all himself without help. Similarly, if you use a dummy or cuddly toy, dont hand him this. Throw it into the cot and tell him "where's your dummy" (or whatever) so he finds and gets it independently.

As mentioned, little toddlers are almost universally eager to show how clever they are in following instructions (as long as they understand and can do it). So while you will probably have to keep repeatedly saying "lie down" every time he gets up in the cot, it is teachable to get through this phase. You just have to be persistent and patient about it,

Fluffytail1 · 04/07/2020 13:17

Yeah I think allowing him into your bed is not good. You will end up with him in and out your bed until he’s about 7! Having said that, I didn’t let mine in my bed as babies and toddlers but somehow ended up with them in my bed as they got older anyway!

SpillTheTeaa · 04/07/2020 13:42

My DS started this at 8 months. He went through it for about two weeks. I did put him in the bed with me but when he fell asleep he would go back in his cot. He has never fell asleep by just being put in his crib/cot we've always rocked him to sleep. Only way he will ever go to sleep. He sleeps through the night and if he wakes up now he just lays or stands there doesn't fuss so we just leave him in there now unless he cries which he doesn't do and he manages to go back to sleep by himself then. But only then Grin

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