2 year old won't stay on own bed

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Our 2 year old will not sleep the night in her own bed and she is now coming into ours earlier and earlier. She falls asleep on her own every night after a bit of a fight and I just don't know what to do. I feel like our evenings are being taken away from us and I'd really like that time to relax together.
We have tried in the past putting her back into bed, but she just SCREAMS, won't lie down etc . I worry about the noise for our elder child and also the neighbours . We have done 2 or 3nights where I have literally slept on the landing outside her room and just put her back to bed but she is relentless.
I've looked into sleep consultants but they are an awful lot of money especially in the current climate and we are both self employed.
Has anyone got any suggestions at all?!?!?! I'm really struggling mentally during this lockdown and this really isn't helping either . Thank you 😊

Why can’t she get in with you? I gave up with sleep training. It just defaulted back to the norm whenever they were ill/upset/clicks changed/ on holiday.

The 3 weeks it took every time just weren’t worth it in the end.

She does get in with us but it's starting to be anytime
Now from 10pm and it's not what we want. We would like the night to ourselves.
She will be 3 in October so it's not like she's a young 2 either .

I wish we were in a position to pay for a consultant but we aren't and short of telling us to be consistent and insist she goes back to bed each time I'm struggling to understand what else that they could tell us .

She falls asleep on her own every night after a bit of a fight

What happens at bedtime to get her to sleep?

She's too young for a bed on her own and needs to be in a cot. Your post reads like you have stopped using a cot (you mention her sleeping on the landing - really unhealthy sleep habit), would you be willing to bring the cot back?

We use a stair gate on her door, gro clock and music.

Gro clock - she knows she isn't allowed out of room while stars are out.

Music - hrlps to settle initially and for when she wakes in the night.

Gate - keeps her in the room,and in the morning she can play with toys/books till the sun comes out and then we go in

Sorry I have just seen these responses.
Cot- she is a climber and literally climbs out repeatedly- I felt this was getting dangerous.
Same for a stair gate- she just climbs it . Really wish I was exaggerating but she can climb/ scale anything it seems!

Sleeping on the landing was in reference to me- I sleep on the landing as I'm often having to get up and down more than 100 times if we try and keep her in her own bed.

She also has music on whilst she falls asleep. This goes off after 20 minutes.

In terms of her going to bed at night, she has stories and a song and n her room, then I leave afyer kiss / cuddle. She just constantly calls out / screams / cries . I go back in after 2-3 minutes sometimes I increase this until she eventually falls asleep.

I think I just have the most stubborn 2.5 year old on the planet.

Would you laying next to her bed work? With the hope that she would fall back to sleep with you there and then over time you could move further away untill no longer needed

My DD is 2.4 and pretty much the same. Progressed to falling asleep with me sat next to her and holding hand. Wakes up an hour later and sometimes resettled for another hour or two, sometimes not. She's slept through 4 times in her life so I know its possible....not sure what the answer is.