Exhausted need advice pleaseeee

[Georginamummy]

So my DD is 11months. Since young she has been a very good sleeper usually slept through the night.

Now all of a sudden it's just a nightmare. She always wakes up through the night wants picking up. For example last night she went to sleep at 8.30pm and then woke up at 12am I tried to tap her but she started screaming for me to pick her up so I tapped/ rocked her back to sleep, again she woke up at 2am so again did the same tapped/ rocked to sleep but also gave her milk. So thought she'd sleep through. But then she woke up at 4am wide awake she then didn't go back to sleep until 6am. I am extremely exhausted. I don't know what to do? Is this normal for 11month old? Am I doing something wrong? Please help

@Georginamummy There is a 12 month sleep regression. Been through similar. It could also be teething. Worth checking.

My DD is now 20 months. At that age I used to get her up if she wouldn't go back to sleep - even after a breastfeed - read books in a dimly lit light - she would start yawning and want to go back to sleep!!!

Fresh air and if she's walking (mine wasn't at that age!!) .... time in the garden after dinner....and before 🛁

If this is a sudden change, it's likely to be something like illness or teething meaning she needs extra TLC just for the short term. You get many of these little blips where they need some extra help to sleep.

Op I'm going through the exact same thing with my 11 month old. I've read a few threads saying the same. I'm starting to think it's a developmental thing as my son is showing signs he is going to start walking soon eg walking with his walker. He used to sleep amazing now I have to lie with him to get him to sleep & he will be up again in a few hours guaranteed. Do you have a partner to help xx

@esmereldak I do have a partner but he isn't the greatest lol. Also at night she only wants me to pick her up.

Last night was the worst she woke up at 1am and didn't go back to sleep until 5am. I just broke down as nothing was helping her. Eventually I just let her sleep in my bed.

How often does your son wake up through the night ? Hope it gets better for u

@georginamummy Mine isn't either lol! It's so hard not to get stressed & break down don't worry I do it often . I get so frustrated with him because I know there's nothing wrong he just wants to come in my bed which in the end he does. He's already woke up a few times tonight but thankfully gone back. In for another sleepless night I think. Hope your little one sleeps for you x

@esmereldak I know the feeling. I was getting stressed because I didn't know why she was crying so kept thinking maybe she's hot maybe she's too cold. It's so stressful. My DD is the same she will fall asleep in my bed but in the cot she wakes up. Aww bless you. Hope it gets better for you with ur son.

Thank you. She's sleeping at the moment let's hope it lasts lol

Sounds perfectly normal to me. Mine have got up 2-4 times a night every night until age 3.
Just pick up and cuddle your baby, it doesn’t last forever?

How was your night with little one @georginamummy ? Mine ended up in my bed by 10.30pm 😩 woke at midnight wide awake for 1.5 hours! Very tired today x

@esmereldak well it was a lot better thankfully. She woke up at 12am was awake for half an hour then went back to sleep and woke up at 7.30am. So was quite happy with that.

Aww bless you sending you hugs. Sometimes it's just easier to let them into your bed so u both get a decent night sleep. Just try an stay positive as it doesn't last forever and eventually it gets better. That's what keeps me going haha.

Let's hope both babies have a goodnight today. She went to bed at 9pm so fingers crossed. What time does your son usually go to bed?

@georginamummy aw that's good bless her! He usually goes between 6-7 but I've been putting him down later this week to see if it helps him sleep longer. He's been in bed since 7 tonight but I'm not holding my breath! Haha. They are only babies once. Hope we both have a decent sleep tonight xx

@esmereldak Aww that's good. Fingers crossed he stays asleep and you have a decent night. so what's your routine like if you don't mind me asking ? Iv been trying to figure one out for my daughter for ages lol.

Before she used to wake up around 7-8am and then have 2 naps during the day and go to sleep around 9-9.30pm. But then I wanted her to sleep earlier so I thought only let her have one nap during the day and then she can go bed at 8.30pm. Only one night she slept 12hours straight and then after that she's been waking up constantly. So I'm thinking if I should change her routine an if it would help.

Well tonight she's already woke up 3 times so Iv rocked her back to sleep twice and third time just tapped her. Let's hope it gets better lol.

@Georginamummy I wouldn't necessarily move from 2-nap days just yet, you could end up with an even more overtired baby. But it might be that your timings need tweaking a bit.

What times are your usual naps? and for how long?

@BabySleepTeacherUK thanks for reply. See this is exactly what I was also thinking maybe she's overly tired. So at the moment she wakes up around 7-8am and then has her nap around 12-1pm and sometimes sleep for an hour or sometimes 2hours and that's the only nap she has and then I put her to sleep around 8.30pm. This routine only worked once and she slept 12hours but the past 2 weeks with this routine she hasn't slept much and kept waking up through the night.

What timings would you recommend? What's best to do different ? I'd appreciate your advice. Thank you

I would keep a morning nap at this age. I would suggest she is overtired. She would be fine with at least double that amount of daytime sleep.

Id go for a nap starting around 2h after waking, then next nap about 3h after waking from the first nap, with bedtime around 4h after waking from the second nap. It's easy to remember - 234

So an example routine would be:

7am wake
9.00 to 10.00 nap
1.00 to 3.00 nap
7pm bedtime

Or 7.30am wake
9.30 to 11am nap
2pm to 3.30pm nap
7.30pm bedtime

The 234 is give or take. Some babies prefer 225. Or 2.5/3.5/4. But as a general rule you stretch the awake time longer through the day - so shorter awake times earlier and a longer (but not too long) awake time before bed.

@BabySleepTeacherUK thank you so much for that I really appreciate it.

Il give that ago hopefully there's a difference. I also did feel she needed an extra nap during the day.