On my knees , advice needed

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Any advice or even words of solidarity would be much appreciated, I'm so so tired !
DD2 is 7 weeks and her nighttime sleep has always been terrible but the last few nights she has taken it to a new level. She is waking up after being put down in her next to me every 45mins . She used to sleep 8-11 or 8-12 and then wake every hour or so but now I don't even get that early evening sleep. She naps well during the day in her Moses basket or pram and I just don't know what I'm doing wrong.
What makes it worse is that I have DD1 (2.5) so I can't nap during the day and my DH has been away working overseas since DD2 was 2 weeks old and isn't due to come back for another 5 weeks so I have no help at all.
I'm getting so tired and snappy and I feel awful for DD1. I also feel awful as I don't have any feelings towards DD2 except just to want her to sleep and I don't feel I'm enjoying her at all.
Any advice or similar stories that turned out with an amazing sleeper at 8 weeks much much needed! Thank you !

Forgot to include that DD2 is formula fed and doesn't appear to have any reflux/wind issues

Very tired bump !

I also have a 7 week old and a 2.5 year old (who still doesn’t sleep through 😩) have you considered co sleeping for the time being? Not ideal but what I’ve resorted to

@5ambreakfastclub you've got this.

Some survival tips for those first 12 weeks (from a Mum of 4 who remembers it well)

• Dummy. I'm assuming it's a given your baby has one?

• Swaddle. Yes, some babies fight a swaddle, that fighting in itself often means it's needed all the more to calm baby down. You don't need anything fancy - just half a cot sheet or a giant muslin. Swaddle also makes putting baby down easier

• Bouncy Chair. Not one of those expensive fandangled ones, just a bog standard fisher price one. It allows you to plonk yourself on the sofa with the telly on. Toddler on your lap or playing nearby, baby at your feet in bouncer. Use your foot for rhythmic bouncing - the movement helps baby get to sleep and stay asleep

• Not much awake time. Aim for wake, feed and about half an hour awake, max 1h. Then back into bouncer with dummy and start the process of getting baby back to sleep. Don't make the process of settling baby to sleep a stressful thing that takes you away from toddler. That's the joy of bouncer naps.

• Feed frequently - the more you feed in the daytime, the less will be needed at night.

I'll also add that if you're worried about how you feel towards your youngest, maybe have a chat with your GP. It might be postnatal depression.

Thank you @Wingingthis , I'm not sure about co-sleeping. I was too nervous to do it with my first and I do have a next to me cot which doesn't seem to be helping much! Do you think having her right next to me in the bed would make a difference? Probably worth a try!

Thanks for all your tips @FATEdestiny
Have been trying a dummy, sometimes works sometimes doesn't but I'll keep at it!
Swaddling works sometimes but she really likes having her arms to fling about!
In my head I know she'll grow out of this stage and it will get easier but hard to see it when you are in the thick of it.
I'm hopeful that what I'm feeling is just tiredness plus lockdown fatigue plus missing DH but I take your point to see GP if things don't improve . Thank you