Anyone bedshare with baby in double bed?

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I recently had a baby and didn’t plan on bedsharing but with breastfeeding and finding she won’t ever sleep in the Moses basket she’s been in with us. But I’m worried the bed is too small to do it safely as it’s only a double

We only have a small room so bought a double as we wanted to still have some space around the bed but could squeeze a king in.

Not enough room for a side cot though.

I feel silly for looking at replacing a nearly new expensive double bed for a king size.

Has anyone successfully bed shared with a baby in a double bed without banishing husband/partner to the sofa?

We did, but only as a last resort and I never slept well - DH and i clung to the edge of the bed and slept cold!

No breastfeeding DS atm just not worth the risk for me personally

Yes but only on the occasional night and it wasn't comfortable. Can you rearrange furniture or move items out temporarily to make space for a side cot?

Yep, we did. I often slept on my side. Cot fitted at the foot of the bed, went through phases of moving her to the cot after she fell asleep. I found I preferred the cot to. Moses basket as I had it the same height with the mattress as the bed and could see baby from laying down in bed through the bars. Used a Moses for day naps.

I do, but I'm single so there's plenty of room for the baby!

Hi op, have you tried a chicco next to me attached to the bed? That worked wonders for my first dc. After about months I would keep putting him back in his cot which was hard but I was too scared to let him sleep inbetween me and dh as we were ao exhausted and might have slept too deeply. Then after about 12 months we got so tired and one night let him sleep with us (duvet and any dangerous bedding was out of the way). We upgraded our king bed from super king and co slept most nights (always tried him in his own bed and he would sleep there on the rare occasion but wanted him familiar with his own room so still tried). At about 2.3 he happily slept all night in his own bed so it wasnt habit forming like some said it would be (eyeballing MIL) . My dc just need alittle more comford and help with sleep than others. I would do it again in a heartbeat should dc2 need it but luckily seems a much better sleeper...phew

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Yep I bed shared in a double. We had a next to me (which DD refused to sleep in) then my daughter would sleep/feed next to that, then me and then my husband. I wouldn't ever put her between me and my husband as he is such a heavy sleeper and moves about so much. It was fine although I often had neck/back pain for side sleeping. At 6 months we got a cot at the foot of the bed but after her first stretch of sleep she would end up cosleeping again. At 12 months she went into her own room

I have known of families who get rid of the bed and just have mattresses on the floor, so there is less of a risk of rolling off the bed. We need the under bed storage too much though!

Could your DH sleep somewhere else? Even in a king size bed I'm not comfortable with DH being in here when I'm co-sleeping with DS

I did, but I also banished DH to the sofa. So that's not really helpful. Although we all sleep better and DH and I will probably never share a bed again

Yes, although I much prefer it in a super king even without dh there but we've been in a double if we're staying somewhere else.

I find when I'm bedsharing with a baby I sleep a lot lighter, still plenty of rest (as much as you do with a baby who hasn't slept longer than 2 hours in nearly 7 months!) but I'm aware of any noise or movement. The pillows/duvet are set up so it's safe, if anyone else is in bed I put myself between them and the baby. I use a sense-U monitor for my own peace of mind so if he does overheat I get a notification.

I have banished dh to the spare room, but because his snoring wakes me and the baby rather than because of the bed sharing set up. Is the spare room and option?

Personally I love bed sharing, it's worked well for both dc and has meant ive gotten loads more sleep than trying to put them in cots. If done safely it's a great way to bond and get a decent nights sleep.

No, DH slept in a separate bed for the first 4 months then bought a second hand next to me and used it for a few months then put DS in a cot in his own room. Pregnant with DD now and plan on co sleeping for 6 months with DH in spare bed in DS room. It's not that long for us overall so we're happy with the set up

We do, it wasn’t planned but it’s been the o my way DD, and therefore we (!) get any sleep. She’s 13 months but has always been a big baby. I’ve never felt worried about squashing her (she curls up next to me and somehow my instincts keep me still when I sleep) but as She’s getting bigger she takes up a lot more room!

I've kicked my DH out 🤷‍♀️