Bedtime

[foreverblowingbubbles87]

My baby is 5 months old. At the beginning of his birth I wasn't very present. I had severe postnatal depression and insomnia (basically I didn't sleep for about 9 days AT ALL then would sleep for a night then another 7 days) I've had a lot of support and help and I'm finally a lot better. Basically for the first two/three months I remember nothing. I'm upset about that but I'm trying my hardest to move on. I have tried putting my baby to nap/sleep for the last two months and I've succeeded none of the times. He screams blue murfrr if I try but will
Happily do it for his dad. This isn't such a problem as my husband is worki. From home so he's around to do it but he's due back to actual work soon and I'm so scared I'm going to have days of his screaming the house down! Can somebody give me some tips. I'm waiting for a sleep consultant to call me back.

If your husband has already established some settling techniques that work then he is the best person to teach you.

What do you currently do to help your baby get to sleep? What does your husband to differently?

When and for how long does baby nap for during the day?

I've done everything he's taught me and my baby will not have me put him to sleep. He just wants his dad! So I'll start all bedtime routine, and I'll follow exactly what he does but he's fine the whole way through until I walk into his room he just screams and I persevere but if he finally goes to sleep with me he's cried himself to sleep and that's no good for me or him. If I hand him to his dad when he starts screaming he just stops. Sometimes smiles and laughs and it makes me feel utterly useless.

Also my baby isn't napping brilliantly at the moment. He does an hour on a morning and the afternoon is barely none existent. He will sleep in the car or his pram whilst how ever long we're driving/walking but just wakes up when stopped and if we're at home he will manage 5 mins to an hour depending on the day.

What do you/your husband do to get baby to sleep?

My husband holds him until he's sleepy in his room which is dark and then puts him in his cot with his dummy and strokes his face then leaves him and he will fall asleep. For me he won't have any of that routine.

Are you able to get baby sleepy in your arms (with a dummy)?

No. My baby just won't sleep for me in any circumstance. No matter what I've tried. Tonight after he cries himself to sleep I've also cried constantly all
Night too

OP I am pretty much in the same situation but without the PND bit.
My DP would always do the bedtime settling as I'd go to bed early to do the night feeds. DS is now 11 months and still won't go down for me.
I know it's hard but I look at it as DS will come to me for cuddles in the morning, he will also come to me for cuddles during the day, these are things that DP misses out on.
Please don't beat yourself up and try and look at the things you can do which your little one isn't keen on your other half doing