Do babies really sleep through?!

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Do babies really sleep through before the age of 1 without night waking, as in completely sound asleep, no bottle or comfort needed from putting them to bed until the next morning?!

Some babies sleep, some babies don't.
DS 19 has only slept longer than 4 hours stretches a handful of time's.

I honestly believe mums should be banned from asking the sleep question. It brings you no benefit

From 6 months mine did 6-6, giving birth again soon and totally not expecting to be that lucky again ;as everyone keeps telling me. But god I would pay good money to to secure another good sleeper as I'm wiped out from pregnancy

I am blessed with a sleeper , started sleeping through at 3 months old and still does now at 18 months. (sorry!!) Just want to tell you since it can happen. Went through a phase at 10months old when he was poorly of waking in the night it lasted about 3 weeks. He goes to bed at 630pm and I don't see him again til 7.
I am pregnant with DC2 and wonder if it's possible to get lucky twice, probably not!

DD went back and forth in the first year. Since 1ish she sleeps 7-6.30ish with no wake-ups but we now bed share so no idea how she would do in her own bed! She sleeps like a log though.

I've got a nearly 4 month old who has fallen asleep again after sleeping 12 hours last night 🙈 it does happen, I've never let her cry to sleep. Her brother used to wake up once a night but screaming for milk, and still gets in our bed most nights now and he's 3.5. I'm fully expecting her sleep to change at some point but I'm just enjoying it at the moment

My first two didn't until a 15 months and 12 months, but my third is 14 months and since 9 months has slept 6am-4am, then feeds and back to sleep until 6.30am. Not perfect, but it works fine for us at the moment: hoping the 4am wake up just stops at some point!
She stirs sometimes (can see on camera) but gets through the sleep cycles on her own, whereas my older two needed attention every three hours before they started sleeping through. She goes to bed completely awake but sleepy and settles herself quietly (DS insisted I stay with him until he slept and DD1 fed to sleep), so I think that's the major difference.

Mine is generally a good sleeper, and was doing 5-6 hour chunks by 3 months and slept 11 hours a couple of times a week at 5 months. Now she's doing it 3ish times a week at 8 months. Otherwise usually wakes once.

Not linear in any way though. Ridiculous long sleep regressions at 3/4 months and then at 6/7 months (when she was learning to stand and teething all at once), but I count myself very lucky. We'll see if she keeps up the good sleeping from here!

Mine did 7pm-7am about once a week from 10 months (zero sleep training involved). It is possible but obviously not every baby is as keen on the idea!

Now he's nearly 2 and wakes at 5am

Breastfed forgot to add.

To add though, once the older two started sleeping through, that was it. Now 11 and 9, they've only called out/appeared after bedtime three or four times, ever! DS is still an early riser though - 6.30am is great for him!
I know it seems a long slog at times, but you'll get there

My DD slept through all night from birth (had to dream feed or wake her at first) and still does.
(Have had and still have, other issues to make up for it though!)

Nope, still waking 4-8 times a night

Just to clarify I mean 8pm-7am

Yes. I managed it when my child was 4 months old.
I was in a desperate situation. I was getting really really depressed through sleep deprevation. My baby was up most of the night and day.
I did a bit of research.
I bought a book called The Sensational Baby Sleep plan.

The best thing I ever did. Within a week my baby was sleeping through the night.
I have 5 children. I have used this sleep plan for all of them and has worked on all of them. It was the best book ever!

@LoveLoveLove2020 I’ve read that book and took some useful background info from it but it’s pretty brutal and is basically sleep training. I’m a big supporter of appropriate sleep training but IMO four months is far too young and I wouldn’t have applied her methods to a baby of that age. Sleep deprivation is torture don’t get me wrong, but I can’t help thinking that if four months of sleep deprivation put you on the brink I’m amazed you went on to have four more babies!

Yep from 12 weeks and before that she would wake once to feed at about 2am.

We are very lucky and we never tell people unless they ask!

I've got a good sleeper. I used to have to set an alarm at 3am to wake him up to feed when he was teeny tiny. Almost from birth he was sleeping 4-5 hour stretches.

He's one now, and we have the odd rough night or rough patch, but he's slept through 7-6:30am since he was about 14 weeks.

@Rainycloudyday what a horrible nasty judgemental post you just said to me.
I really struggled with depression. If I had carried on the way I was going who knows what would have happened.
I have not harmed my baby or any of my children in any way by following this book. To suggest that I should not have gone on to have more children is a really mean cruel thing to say.
The book in my opinion is fantastic. Millions of others think so as well. Obviously you are entitled to your opinion but don't do it such a horrible way. #bekind

DS is 17 weeks. Hes been sleeping through really sleeping through for about 3 weeks m. Goes to bed in his next to me crib at 7:30 and we don’t usually hear another peep until between 6-7 am. if he wakes at 6 he’ll often have a bottle then go back to sleep for a couple of hours. If it’s nearly 7 then he’s up for the day. Naps well to, em3-4 naps a day. He is a unicorn baby. From about 5 weeks of age he only had one feed between 7pm and 7am. DD isn’t he other hand was comeetely different. She didn’t sleep like that til 16 months. I’m nervously awaiting the 4 month sleep regression..

sorry for the typos- holding a squirmy DS!

My son slept through 9pm-9am at 12 weeks, my eldest daughter slept through 7pm-7am at 9 weeks, they are 5yrs and 3yrs now and are still brilliant sleepers.

My youngest however is 2yrs and has slept through the night twice

@LoveLoveLove2020 @Rainycloudyday

I'm looking at getting a book to read to help with getting my son to sleep. Can I ask what the basic ideas are in this book?

Yes, it happens.
DS was sleeping a solid 12hrs at 3 months. It was weird. Been the same for 13yrs.

Ah, his younger sister slept through from 5 months, and stopped at 2yrs. Didn't sleep through again until 8yrs. Still doesn't sleep until 11pm.

@2007Millie it basically sets out a three hourly feeding schedule through the day, saying that getting milk in that often will mean less need to feed at night. For me that’s completely unrealistic. I have had both a ff and bf baby and neither went anything like three hours between feeds for months. It also sets out actions which are effectively sleep training I.e. accepting there will be crying but pushing through. There’s some really interesting stuff about why babies need sleep which I really agree with-I think far too many parents are so terrified of their baby being damaged by any form of sleep training that they forget how harmful lack of sleep can be for a baby’s development, and I felt that this book really set out that side of things well. But, I maintain that it is effectively a sleep training manual that’s you are meant to follow from birth/very early on and I think it’s just totally inappropriate at that age. It would be lovely if all babies slept 12 hours at 12 weeks but it’s completely unrealistic for the vast majority of babies for good biological reasons.

@LoveLoveLove2020 sorry if my post offended you, that really wasn’t my intention. I just honestly find it surprising that someone who has had such a tough time the first time would have chosen to have another four babies, knowing it pushed you to the brink. I’m glad this book worked for what you wanted, but that’s my honest opinion on it. I’m a big advocate of sleep training but I found this book just too harsh, too young.