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Controlled crying 10mo

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Bxy123 · 01/06/2020 10:32

Hoping not to be shouted at too much here... Looking for a bit of advice and interested in other peoples experiences!

DS is 10mo and sleeping at night is just awful. He is combination fed so has about 500ml of formula, 3 meals and 2 bf's in a day. I bf at night as its the quickest way to get him back to sleep however I'm confident he is getting sufficient food in the day to not need any at night. But I want to break this habit now as I am losing my ability to function on such little sleep.
So I want to try CC. How has this worked for people in a similar position?

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EastMidsMumOf1 · 01/06/2020 10:39

Worked like hell for me and my 9 month old.
Started when she was 8 months and tried to stick with it for atleast a week, by the end of said week she would start crying as soon as we got into the bedroom! Total fail, it took another couple of weeks to settle her back to even being in that room and now she still struggles with being put in her cot a month on when prior to CC she was fine-ish.
Really wouldn't recommend from my own experience although others sing it praises!

EastMidsMumOf1 · 01/06/2020 10:41

Also just to add DD is FF (4 7oz bottles in 24hrs) and 3 meals a day. Waking 2/3 times per night.
When CC she was still on 5 bottles per day shes only just dropped the mid morning one.

FATEdestiny · 01/06/2020 10:49

Controlled crying is meant for children at least 12 months old. There are other methods to use though.

Are you feeding baby to sleep?

That's the issue, you need a way to comfort baby to sleep in the cot rather than putting an already asleep baby in the cot.

There are other ways to achieve that which would be more appropriate for your baby's age.

What do you do to get baby from fully awake to fully asleep? Is it the same thing at night wake ups? Daytime naps? What's baby's daytime nap routine like?

EastMidsMumOf1 · 01/06/2020 10:57

@fatedestiny ferber method is for 6M+ which is usually referred to as CC.
I think the extinction method (not sure if the names right!) is for 12M+ though.

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Bxy123 · 01/06/2020 13:36

@FATEdestiny - I only feed to sleep in the night when he wakes. Initial bedtime he goes down awake but it takes a long time to get him to sleep. Daytime naps are totally different, he has 2 and I put him down wide awake and he happily drifts off. When I don't bf at night then I am up for over two hours each time trying to get him to sleep with patting /shushing etc, I don't pick him up out of his bed.

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FATEdestiny · 01/06/2020 17:31

So for naps, you just put baby down fully awake and leave? Does baby cry? At bedtime you say it takes a while to go to sleep. Is baby left to it then too?

Is this what you've always done, or a recent change?

What's daytime sleep routine on a usual day?

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Bxy123 · 01/06/2020 17:39

@FATEdestiny - For naps yes - fully awake and in his bed, exactly the same as night time. For naps he sometimes doesn't cry at all, but if he does it's for no longer than five minutes and he is asleep. At night time he cries once he is laid down in his bed so I don't leave him, I stay until he is asleep. No recent change, been the same for months now. Daytime routine is up at between 5am and 6am, nap at 9am and 2nd nap at 1.30pm. Both are for an hour and half. Then bed at 7pm! What other sleep training methods would you recommend?

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missyB1 · 01/06/2020 17:43

We did CC and it worked really well. It took about 4 nights the first night was really hard, but by the 4th night he was just having a little “protest cry” for about 5 minutes then he was sound asleep. And he slept right through the night most nights after that.

FATEdestiny · 01/06/2020 18:43

It sounds like baby already knows how to go to sleep on his own. So the breastfeeding at night may well be just the easy/quick option and if you stopped I reckon baby would adapt pretty quickly.

You're right that baby shouldn't need the nourishment or fluids in the night, it's all about comfort and ease getting back to sleep.

I would do what you do at bedtime for night wakes. So stay with baby patting and shushing (or whatever you do to settle him at bedtime). Yes, he's going to protest - probably quite a lot. But just be consistent and he'll soon get it. I'm not a fan of leaving baby to cry, so can't bring myself to suggest that. I'd stay with him.

glitterbiscuits · 01/06/2020 18:56

Worked for my nearly 10 month old.
We were going mad with lack of sleep.

He is now a tall, healthy 20 year old and a straight A student and no psychological problems have manifested yet.

Selfsettling3 · 01/06/2020 19:02

How often is your baby feeding at night. It is entirely normal for babies of this age to need feed during the night.

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