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Please explain what’s different about night/day sleep?!

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Archibaldsmellysox · 21/05/2020 20:24

DS is just about 10 months. Routine is this -
Wake 7, breakfast 8, nap 9, wake 10, lunch 12, nap 1, wake 3, snack, dinner 5, bath 6, bed by 7. (Bath, story, breastfeed,bed)

His daytime naps are great. He either falls asleep breastfeeding and I put him in cot, or I put him down awake after breastfeed and say night night and leave room. He then might have a little whinge, have a bit of a potter round cot and then goes to sleep. If he wakes he goes back to sleep.

Night time, if he falls asleep breastfeeding I put him down and he wakes 30 mins later screaming. If he doesn’t fall asleep feeding and I put him down awake he starts screaming as soon as I put him in cot. I’ve tried leaving it a minute or two to see if he’s just making a fuss but he definitely isn’t happy. If I sit by cot he just screams and reaches through bars for me. So for the last few weeks I’ve either brought him downstairs to try and watch tv and have a bit of a chill (doesn’t work because he’s tired and complains) or I give up totally and get in my bed with him and watch Netflix on my phone.
The only way he will sleep at night is next to me. But his daytime naps are perfect. What the hell is so different? I use blackout blinds day and night, I use ocean white noise day and night. I don’t get any time with husband at the moment, and while I don’t mind lying in bed catching up on tv, honestly I’d love to claw back some evening time. I don’t see how it can be separation anxiety because if I leave him in his cot with monitor on for a shower in daytime, he plays happily. Doesn’t worry that I’ve left room. He’s definitely tired (I make sure he gets plenty of crawling and practicing standing in) He sleeps through more or less next to me on my bed (will wake to feed once or twice but as we go sleep at moment it doesn’t really disturb our sleep).
Pleeease has anyone got any ideas??

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yellowsubmarine12 · 22/05/2020 07:05

Do you think he's having too much daytime sleep?

My DD at that age would have an hour and a 30mins in the morning and then 30mins in the afternoon. Making sure all naps finished by 3pm. Bedtime would be 6.30/7.

I know what you mean about clawing an evening back. I feel like I've only just got my evenings back - my DD is 18 months....she sleeps 7.30pm to 7.30am but it took a while to get there!! And if she's not fussed on day naps - there's no point forcing her ... so it feels like you can't have it all Confused

See how you go with less day sleep.

userabcname · 22/05/2020 07:11

I co-sleep too. I reckon everyone one gets more sleep this way. I'd rather sacrifice an evening and get a solid block of decent sleep than battle with the cot and be up and down every 5 minutes.

burritofan · 22/05/2020 08:32

Night sleep just is different, sorry. He'll be more tired by the evening than for naps so less able to cope, aware by this age that there's a whole night's sleep ahead and you're in separation anxiety/8-10 month sleep regression territory. Everything is worse/scarier/more stressful at night for adults, can imagine the same goes for babies.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 22/05/2020 08:39

I disagree with a pp, I think the daytime sleep is fine. Maybe try and pull the lunch nap forward a bit or push bedtime back 30mins.

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