HELP with bedtime routine

[2GMom]

LO is 22 months. A bath makes her hyperactive!! She just can’t sit still after. She won’t sit for a massage either.
When I read a story she doesn’t listen at all, she sings, hums & basically does anything other than listen to me.
I’m struggling to get a proper routine in place with no bath or book.
She goes ballistic if I leave the room before she is asleep. I really should have done sleep training.........
She doesn’t have electronics or tv much but if she does (because she loves them) it’s in the morning/afternoon.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated

You say she sings when you read to her - could you listen to or sing some calming lullabies/ nursery rhymes with her? Or put her dolls/teddies to bed - brush their teeth, sing to them, tuck them in etc, then do the same with her? No experience of this myself - we do bath and book, and have to stay in the room til he’s asleep too - but just some ideas!

How long does she take to go to sleep? My two go wild at bedtime too. I think it’s the last bit of energy coming out. So we play silly games and go a bit hyper. Then do books. You don’t have to have bath and books for a bedtime routine. Those can be done at other times. So long as there’s teeth done and a wash, then the rest is optional. If it’s not working then change it round.

She would listen if I sing, she absolutely loves songs/nursery rhymes. She’s always singing. Has no interest in dolls/teddies. I do have some in her bed but she takes no notice of them.
It takes about an hour for her to fall asleep. Some nights it’s longer.
I’ll maybe try calming songs, thank for your response

We have a nursery rhymes book that the kids love at bedtime. It has pictures in it too. Maybe get one of those. Also, sometimes I just read while the kids fidget around. Half the time they talk the whole way through the book. I try to remember that it a bit of close time after the busyness of the afternoon and me being distracted making dinner and clearing up. It’s a time where they have undivided attention for an hour. No wonder they go a bit wild.

That’s a nice way to look at it. I was just hoping to speed it up a bit, I get very little time with my husband. Some nights it can take 2 hrs for her to go to sleep, last night took 2 hours because I had her in the bath and read a story then it took her an hour to fall asleep.
Someone suggested magnesium flakes in the bath go help relax her. I might try those. I do have a nursery rhyme book actually. I’ll bring that up, it’s quite big so I could read a few from it every night.
Thanks

There is no need for a daily bath and even if she does get very dirty she could have it earlier in the evening or the next morning. If you think it isn't helping it's an easy thing to change.

Bin the bath. My eldest goes hyper with water. Loves a morning shower though.
How involved are you with calming her down? With my eldest, if I sat quietly she would eventually slow down and we could get her to bed. But if we tried to lead it she got more excited and bedtime took forever!

I’d try reducing naps too. So that you can have a nice time at bedtime but then she doesn’t take as long to fall asleep. So you still get your evening with husband together.

At that age we did a 20 minute cuddle and cartoons (specifically masha and the bear) before bed.

She has 1 nap in the day. Today it lasted 30 mins but she will still take an hour to fall asleep tonight. Sometimes it’s longer but she woke herself today. We wake her at 7am.
I’m reluctant to introduce cartoons before bed because she loves tv!
The most I would do is lift her back in bed when she climbs out, or lie her down when she gets up to run about.
I lay down beside her & play lullabies.
I’ll bin the bath, I had just hoped it would help relax her before bed.