2 month old absolutely wont sleep alone

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Iv tried all the tricks and emotionally exhausted from doing it. The most success I get is 15 mins of her asleep on her own. We co sleep at night and in the day in my arms. I still try put her in her own bed multiple times a day and have done since she was born really and shes almost 10 weeks so I'm going insane with trying.
I'm not looking for tricks because iv tried everything. Just does anyone have any experience with this and when itll possibly end???

I should mention 99 percent off the time shes waking instantly or squirming herself awake

My 9 month old is the same! To fair I’ve not really had the opportunity to try and change it.

Completely normal at this age. I didn’t bother trying to get my second to sleep on his own until he was six months - it’s not worth the stress. Do you have a sling/carrier? Really useful for keeping your hands free while they sleep on your chest.

I have a baby wrap which is great when shes fast asleep and she stays asleep that way just I want her to sleep on her own :( . How can I have any routine if I have to wake her up repeatdly from her naps every day so I can get stuff done. The wrap is helpful if I have it ready tho

I know it’s frustrating, but you can’t ‘make’ her sleep on her own at this age and trying to do so will end up just being really frustrating. I found it became a lot easier when I just accepted I wouldn’t get much else done during the day while she napped on me. Do you have other kids to look after? If not then honestly just sit on the couch as much as you can and enjoy the enforced down time.

For your own mental health you need to chill out. What is so urgent? The house won't get much dirtier. You can have a snack or ready meal instead of cooking from scratch. You could even take baby to bed and safely co sleep for a nap from time to time.

Of course baby wants to sleep with mum. You are the place of safety and comfort. You're her world. Maximum time you have for her to sleep on you like this is a year. Most likely it will be much less.

If you don't get on with your sling try a different one. They are a lifesaver.

Its hard OP but very normal. Have a read up of the fourth trimester. Babies crave contact and closeness. It'll get easier as she gets older and you might find she starts to go a bit longer. As for wanting to get things done, do you have a swing or a bouncer you can use so you can potter about and do things whilst she's awake? Sleep breeds sleep so she will sleep better if she isnt over tired.

I would prefer not to co sleep at all but it's just what in stuck with. And it's the influence of birth clubs I'm in most babies seem to sleep in their moses basket/cor and some are even learning to self soothe I feel like I'm failing as a parent
There is also not much routine in the day as I'm waking her up by putting her down from her naps often (to pee make food etc) so theres no predictability in the day and I feel she doesnt sleep as much as she should

Not expecting a 10-week-old to “self soothe” is not failing as a parent, I promise you that. You’re her safe place right now, and the fact that she needs you in that way is absolutely developmentally appropriate. I’d wear her in a carrier for as much of the day as possible so that you can use the loo and feed yourself without having to disturb her. And otherwise just put your feet up.

Was it hard to get your baby to sleep on their own at 6 months when you started trying to? And yeah I'm gonna wear the sling wrap I have more just not ideal egen it's hot weather

I never got either of mine to fall asleep on their own until they’d stopped breastfeeding, but from about that age I would feed them to sleep on the bed and then I’d be able to leave them sleeping there for an hour or two.

I have an 8 month old who doesn’t sleep alone, we co-sleep for naps if home and at night. I do try for a nap every 2.5-3hrs though so we have a routine. We are on the cusp of dropping to 2 instead of 3 naps though.
I’m ok to just go with it. She will sleep alone one day. I love co-sleeping but I’m the only one of my NCT doing it. Who cares? All babies are different, mine needs me for sleep.

Was it hard to get your baby to sleep on their own at 6 months when you started trying to? The (just) six month old we have with us at the moment just suddenly took to it. When he first came he would only sleep on me but over the last few weeks he has slept in his cot on his own (but in our room). I think he's a natural tummy sleeper, he has reflux and seems to find pressure on his tummy comforting, and now he can roll and is safe to sleep on his tummy he sleeps happily in his cot for daytime naps and for a good few hours overnight.

I agree with PP, it's completely normal at that age for her to seek your heartbeat and sounds, up until a few weeks ago it was all she knew. It does end honestly but for now? Just go with the flow and be kind to yourself. You are her whole world right now but it does slowly change.

My eldest wouldn't sleep during the day unless he was touching me - either in a sling, or just on top of me. We co-slept until he was about 9 months old. Some babies just need more physical contact than others when they are very small. 8 weeks old is way too young to be trying to get into a routine. Google 'the fourth trimester' I know it's frustrating for you, but this time really does go by in a blink of an eye, so try to just relax a bit more if you can.

My third DC would not sleep by herself, wanted to be held for all sleep for the first 6-8 wks then moved to cosleeping (so at least I could lie down which felt like some progress) but started sleeping through the night much earlier than her earlier siblings ever did (so some hope for you). I didn't want to cosleep but had to go with it in the end. She did grow out of needing me to be in very close proximity naturally though. I know it's hard but hang in there and do whatever it takes to get through this day/week as happily and stress free as possible. Don't worry about the future as they change a lot.

Totally normal

Some of them just won't do it OP. I couldn't get my DS to nap anywhere other than on us until he was 8 months old, and even then it was touch and go. He'd still often wake up as soon as we put him down. Does she have a dummy? I think the babies who sleep best all have dummies, but DS would never take one!

I used to sometimes be able to feed him while he was lying in the sleepyhead, then unlatch him and slowly slide the sleepyhead away. While blaring white noise in his ear. Or sometimes I could heat the sleepyhead up with a hot water bottle or wheat bag and slowly slide him in after feeding him. But not every time! It was painful!

She wont take one either. She happily sucks on her hands tho lol

I basically have the same kind of baby. Mine is four months now. He is very boob-dependent and will have long naps sometimes if he can nuzzle himself back to sleep. He is a better sleeper than his older brother was at this age but older brother could at least be put down for up to 4 hours at the start of the night at 2 months. So I get your frustration.

What I have found helps is as follows:

1. Don’t fight it, it will change when it changes. I stressed loads about DC1’s sleep - he woke every 45 minutes on a bad night for months. Stressing didn’t change things. He is now four and has been an amazing sleeper for almost two years now. Not down to anything I did (and I tried everything bar controlled crying) - he just got there when he got there.

2. Watch how long baby is awake for. You’ll start to spot patterns. Mine is a little older but couldn’t manage more than an hour awake at that age. Now it’s closer to two hours so if he’s grumpy 90 minutes after waking, I try for a feed and a nap.

3. Once you spot patterns, you can be prepared, eg I would pop to the loo and/or quickly make myself a drink and sandwich/snack then settle in on the sofa with phone and book to hand.

Will yours sleep in a pushchair? Mine will so I get DP to take him out for a long walk around when I think he needs a nap, on days where this is an option. This is mostly so I can hang out with our older child but is also useful for getting a few bits done!

Following because my baby is exactly the same. I've just put our spare bed mattress on our bedroom floor as it's a lot firmer than our normal one so I think safer for co sleeping and I want to stay in my bedroom! Feels a bit mad but I think it's also a bit about me accepting the cosleeping. I tend to get things done (like eat!) when he is awake and sat in his bouncy chair as he'll sit on his own awake a lot longer than sleep. I've pretty much given up trying to put him down asleep. I'd like to have a rough idea when babies tend to grow out of this and it's nice knowing I'm not the only one.

My DS was like this. Its completely normal (unfortunately). Babies survived the stone age by being constantly minded by adults. The ones that sleep alone are the unusual ones.

Try to just let it happen. Routine isnt really a reasonable expectation at this age or for several months yet. Fighting it just exhausts you more. There is no real timeline, every baby is different. I coslept for ages and ages - there will be regressions as well - just let it happen and sleep when you can, how you can.