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Where do I start?!?

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MammaPyjama · 27/04/2020 16:57

Over the past two months 10 month old DD's sleep has gone from "okay" to crap. She's waking 4/5 times a night (previously it might be anywhere from 1-3). She rarely naps for longer than 40 minutes (sometimes she will, but rarely unless she's on me - which isn't practical. We never had a great nap routine, but she was much more likely to do at least one long nap of about 2 hours). I'm also feeding her to sleep every time - naps, bedtime, every wake-up. I had got to the stage of being able to rock her to sleep for most naps and bedtime, and was working on putting her into cot drowsy but awake so she fell asleep there - but teething then a cold then more teething broke my resolve and we've lapsed.

She's an ACTIVE baby. When she wakes at night she's up and trying to crawl about before her eyes are even open. She also gets angry quickly. Attempting to rock her now just results in her jiving around shouting, until I nearly drop her - it's not restful. I don't know where to start - I can't cope with the frequency of the night wakings, I need to start getting her to settle without a feed as she's a few months away from nursery, and I feel like the nights won't get better till she can re-settle on her own. But if she's overtired that won't help (which I think she must be on 2 x 30 minutes - although she's such a little tornado it doesn't really show. I think she just rampages through it!)

I live in a terraced house so I can't have her screaming in the middle of the night. So where do I begin?!? 😭

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ZooKeeper19 · 28/04/2020 15:20

Oh @MammaPyjama I share your pain. Sorry, not really any expertise in this but I was told, that babies 7m-1y need to sleep 2-3 hours during the day. Apparently this then solves the night sleep out. But that is theory, I find that some days I have a baby that fits all the books and some days I have a screaming devil. Maybe having her fed, then swaddled or just given dummy/comforter and put her down for a nap every 2-3 hours see what she says? (sorry, I have the same problem and I have not yet figured out what will work).

What I can say is this. Please do not make it harder for yourself by worrying about the house and screaming baby at night. We all have been there/will be there and it is your baby's right to scream. It's nothing to stress yourself (the neighbours etc.) about. It's already hard on you trying to soothe the baby, that is quite enough to be dealing with.

Also re nursery - let them worry about how she naps there (I was told the kids learn from each other very quickly and they just become angels in the nursery...)

MammaPyjama · 29/04/2020 15:49

Perhaps if she learns at nursery, she can bring the lesson home! 🤦‍♀️

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