7month old wakes six times in the night.

[Alexandra26]

I'm exhausted I feel like I can't do this anymore and I'm letting him down. We've tried everything. Through the day he goes off for naps with no problem and when we put him down for bed at night he's fine. We always make sure to put him down when he's awake and he's brilliant at going to sleep on his own.

Until he wakes in the night then that's it. Sometimes I'm up nearly every hour and nothing I do settles him. Just last week he woke at 22:40 and didn't go back off till 3:00am.

It's worse with lock down because usually my parents would help and have him a night to give me a break. My partner works and I feel awful waking him up to settle him so I usually end up trying to do every night on my own.

I feel like I'm an awful mum and I can't get night times right and there's obviously something I'm doing wrong.

Any advice would be great

My almost 2 yo wakes at least double that. It's normal.

Do you breastfeed?

I'm 15 months in a this is normal for us. It's a killer but some babies just don't sleep. I wish I had some advice for you but just be kind to yourself

How long does your LO nap for during the day? Is it possible he is not that tired at night?

That many nightly wakings does not sound normal to me. Does he rely on breastfeeding to get to sleep?

I'm not an expert but I dont think this sounds normal and it also sounds horrifically exhausting. Poor you. What do you do to settle him? What does he do between 10.40 and 3?

Have you tried doing nothing to settle him? I know that may sound counter intuitive but my ds will not settle if I try to give him any assistance i.e he will not go to sleep if rocked or patted etc. He much prefers to be left alone! Also, is he actually fully waking in the night or just thrashing around and moaning? Again it might sound silly but I used to constantly try to settle him when he did this at the end of every sleep cycle until I realised that he wasn't actually awake when doing it and it was my interfere that was unsettling him. If left to his own devices he settles himself again which means more rest for him and me!

We've tried leaving him but once he made himself that upset he was sick and I was in tears too then.

But it's like ones he's awake he wants to play and he's up for hours! Like the little sleep he's had has revived him.

Slowly getting there now with the help of a white noise machine and strict nap routine.

He's still waking frequently but I feel like I'm coping better now.

Just dreading going back to work next month and relying on others to stick to his nap routine. 😭