Sleep training when baby keeps standing up in the cot

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Hello, I'm looking for some advice on how to sleep train my 10mo baby. I currently rock/feed him to sleep and then put him down in his cot, but I really want to break this habit and for him to start learning to fall asleep on his own as I am losing my mind with tiredness (we also need to work on daytime naps, but I'm picking my battles one at a time!).

The trouble is, unless he is fast asleep, as soon as I put him down in his cot he and gets very upset and sits up/stands. This evening I tried leaving him in the cot and going back to him every 2 minutes to reassure him and lie him back down again, but every time he immediately got up again and was so distressed that I couldn't see how he was ever going to fall asleep like that, and so gave up after about half an hour

Does anyone have any advice?

Time is flying, please stop stressing your self so much, your baby he can feel that. Just enjoy him. Soon he will be a grown up and you will never remember this time. Enjoy your time with him. 🙈

I can't be sure because my babies have always used them to sleep in but Grobags seem to stop mine from standing up.

My littlest is really active and does stand whenever I pop her in the cot for a moment but in her grobag she doesn't.

Thanks Modest, he is in a sleeping bag and can still stand up! 😣

I'd put him down awake but stay by the cot and pat his bottom and shush him.
If he stands up just lay him back down.
Stay calm and reassuring and just keep patting and shushing til he's asleep.

I wouldn't keep leaving the room if it's making him distressed, stay with him and help him feel secure. Once he's falling asleep in the cot without feeding or rocking, then you can work on gradually helping less - just holding his hand or sitting quietly by the cot, then sitting further away.

You're trying to rush him too fast from being rocked and fed to being left completely alone and it is making him insecure.

Mine could still stands up in the sleeping bag too and would do this .. When we did gentle sleep training it took 2 hours the first night 40 mins the second about 10/15 the Third and then that was him.. Occasionally he will all shout when we have put him in but stops by the time I have reached the stairs and usually only if he isn't tired enough. Generally he will play with his teddies for about 20 mins or so before going to sleep.
My husband stayed in the room with him for the training but sat on a chair in his room occasionally lying him back down patting his back etc tbh the first night we started with me and it wasn't working so dh took over.. For the first few month dh had to be the one to do story and bedtime as ds would scream the house down if it was me.
Ds was older though he was 18 months

My dd did this.

I was just going in and laying her back down without speaking. This didn't really help and went on for hours. In the end she fell asleep on her knees headed rested on the side of the cot. I then laid her down although if she woke she would stand up again. This went on for two nights.

On the third night I moved the cot so she could see the door when laid down. She then just started laying down on her own. Whether it was because she could see the door or just because she accepted being in bed I don't know, but she settled fine after that.

Thanks everyone for the suggestions, hopefully we'll get there eventually!

Second the staying with him, you need to gradually wean him off needing you there to fall asleep. So sit on floor next to cot, hand on tummy, pat cot next to head in heartbeat rhythm and shush. It will take forever but the time should gradually shorten. Then lose the hand on tummy, then stop patting and finally stop shushing. Maybe replace with a white noise machine. Good luck

Mine is not much older than yours, but a few months ago I was in exact same predicament.

He has now (recently) grown out of this phase. I don't believe in letting them cry it out so this is what worked for me. Every time he stands, pop him back down with something safe he can cuddle with. Stand there stroking his hair for about 30 seconds. And repeat next time he stands up crying. White noise and all lights out.

It might take weeks but he'll get the message eventually. There's so many things on the internet that will tell you how to sleep train them overnight. It's simply not possible. There is no overnight cure. Nothing works better than consistency.

When you go in to baby's room, keep it short and sweet. Don't say anything, just let him know you're there.

I know it's so hard and you could literally fall asleep standing there while you're comforting him. But this will pay off and soon be a distant memory!

Also for daytime naps, I found gently singing him to sleep really worked. We do twinkle twinkle. It works pretty well, despite me having an awful singing voice

Thank you - reassuring to know others have made it out the otger side! I'm certainly not looking for an overnight cure to this, it's just so hard when you're exhausted though!

My daughter would do this. She would fall asleep standing up but then her knees buckling would wake her up and she would stand again. It was amazing how long she could keep it up for.

By the time she was 6 months she was over the bars of the cot so she went into a bed, with a mattress at the side in case she fell out. Solved it over night.

We got through it - she's in her 40s now