Hi, I would appreciate some advice and thoughts. I want to move DS into DD's room, and get them both sleeping well, but should I do it in one go or more gradually?
DS is now 9 months and has been in with me since birth. He starts the night in his cot and inevitably ends up in bed with me, usually waking once before 1.00am then settles OK with his head being stroked, and once again after 1.00 at which point I give in and he sleeps well enough with me until about 6.00. Now however DD (nearly 3yrs) has taken to climbing in as well, and I have had enough. If I get up to put her back, DS wakes up. I think it's not fair on DD to see DS all cuddled up and be told that she can't come in. I quite like co-sleeping with DS, but I feel it's time to put a stop to it. There is also the small matter of missing DH's company in bed, as he won't move back from the spare room until DS is out.
DD is keen on having DS in her room, she is quite a good sleeper herself, and I think she will adjust OK. But should I do it in one go, ie just move DS in there and get everybody used to the new arrangements including DS not being brought into my bed? Or should I do it in stages, eg put DS in the study at first to get him used to being without me but to protect DD to some extent from his crying? I'm rather muddled about what I'm actually trying to achieve.