Getting no sleep ! 11mo waking 5 + times a night

[lorza03]

My son is now 11mo - since 6 m he has been constantly waking during the night - we are now nearly month 6 into no sleep and my husband is really suffering, he is so low and confused because of the lack of sleep ( I have just been able to accept it and get through it) but I’m also not working 40 odd hours a week.
Should I try controlled crying ? I have tried once before and I just ended up going back to bf as the crying was waking the others up.
But I feel now I don’t have much other choice but to give this a go - as much as I don’t want to. What would your advise be ?

If you've ruled out a medical issue, I would definitely try some form of sleep training. If it isn't medical then it's habit and that is relatively easy to fix. Long term sleep deprivation is not good for anyone, not you, not DH, not the baby.

Is your baby still having feeds at night?
I found as soon as we stopped offering milk it dramatically improved sleep. My son used to sleep so badly- he didn't sleep through until he was about 11 months like yours, and it was the stopping of feeds that did it.
Prior to that done nights he'd be up every hour from 1- awful!

We also did sleep training, controlled crying from 6 months which helped him to settle for the first half of the night. Before that it could take 2-3 hours for him to get to sleep via rocking!

Some babies sleep great, some don't. Some need encouragement or literal training to fall asleep for extended periods. Babies need good sleep and you as parents need sleep! Definitely don't feel judged if you want to sleep train. It does work as long as you stick to the checking rules (as per Ferber method). Also helps if your partner can initially do the checks.

Give it a go! Stick with it, hopefully it will improve sleep quickly for you all.

@lorza03

Hi just wanted to ask what are the day naps like?

It's not clear whether you are still breastfeeding or did once to settle?

I remember my DD now19 months still on and off between 6 months and 12mths.

What I found - and basically to get me through- it was easier to keep on breastfeeding and feeding in night wake ups. I was so worried that she would be dependent on feeds and i would be creating a rod for my own back - but it worked out fine. I would just cuddle and feed on wake up and she would be back off to sleep in no time. The wake ups started getting less and less and from 14 months shes been sleeping through.

If boob works- stick with it!! It's totally natural for them to be soothed - and in some cases quicker! - through breastfeeding.

Hope it improves

I'm in the exact same boat at 14 months. I've lost count how many times we've been up and it's been constant since she was born. I too feed her back to sleep as it's quicker but she's wakes every 1-1.5hrs and I'm chronically exhausted. I was wondering about controlled crying too but do you so it every times they wake or just the one you put them down?

I'm worried she ll be awake all night then nap all day if we do that

Sorry to piggy back your thread but I'm broken

I still breastfeed yes - I doo the same he usually wakes up between 12/1 feed settles back off then that sort of starts the train of wake up every hour or 2 , we have had a few nights with only one wake up at 3 am but after 3 he just has not settled well, my other son he is 2.5 years from day 2 he has been a dream baby never ever had a problem with sleep and still fantastic now , 11 mo! Total opposite ohh @Pippinsqueak you have to do what feels right , if that’s your last resort try it may work , my husband is also dead on his feet he can no longer think straight due to the total lack of sleep 💤, we are going to try the controlled crying from tonight , I think when he wakes I will let him cry a few minutes then got to him let him know I’m still
There . Arhhh yes about the napping wel with the change atm we are at home full time so he has had a morning nap at either 9 or 11 then he usually goes to seep again around 3 . Is this to much should I aim for an earlier bed time atm goes to Sleep for 7.30pm

Hi sorry only just seen this.
Hope your first few nights went ok.

I'd just say from personal experience (that worked!) that we had to stick at the Ferber method sleep training- the first few nights were hard, we had allot of crying which is horrible to hear. But we were 100% desperate and beyond exhausted and I'm so pleased we did commit to ST.
After the first few nights it got easier and our son actually started to sleep longer stretches. I think it was a week and he was sleeping 6.30-6 straight. That's from a baby who woke CONSTANTLY before!

Every time they wake in the night you follow the same agreed process- wait X amount of minutes before you/ your partner go on to check.

Its recommended checks are at 5,10,15,20 minutes. We also would say the same things to our son on checking on him "love you, night night"

There are some really great vids on YouTube that offer advice on sleep training too.

Honestly think you may need to drop the middle of the night feeds too - only then did my son sleep through the night! That's just what worked for us...

Hi I was just wondering how you are getting in with controlled crying and what your method is? I'm in a similar position with my 8 month old, constantly waking in the night only settling on the boob! Sleep deprivation is killing me! Desperate to find a solution. Hope you are getting somewhere with the sleep training :)

Hi @Hughiemummy I was meaning to post actually, we were night 4 ast night and we slept from 7.30 - 5.45 I’m in total amazement ! There was no wake up last night and the night before only one wake up at 4am , stoked his face for about 1 minute popped the hippo music of nature sounds back on and off t sleep 💤 until 6.30 , I was so apprehensive about it all and it’s worked out very well, altho I can’t bloody sleep ! 2 am wide awake !
I have managed this week to stop day BF and we are just morning after breakfast and before bed. It’s definitely improved his behaviour and we now have a day sleep at 10.30 and has been sleeping for 2 hours
It’s helped just been indoor and at home as we usually have a busy life as my other 2 children are young we are usually in for an hour or so so my baby has probably struggled to get in a regular pattern of sleep. Thanks all for the comments and support.
I do love coming on here for help!