4 month sleep regression

[Twiglet2353]

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Please.

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Anything.

@Twiglet2353 I am in the same boat as you. I feel like she is destroying me. Exactly the same. Will sleep being held. Wakes when put in cot most the time. Sometimes will sleep but max an hour. Feeling really fed up.

My now 5.5 month old had a couple of weeks of only waking twice a night but is now back to waking every 1 to 2 hours. I really hope this is going to improve soon, still holding out for everything to improve a 6 months. When we did sleep training a month ago everything seemed to improve for a few nights but I now feel we are back to square one. I think there might be another wonder week/developmental spurt to get through first.

twiglet maybe he is sleeping too much in the day & is genuinely not tired at night?
Pretty sure by that age mine did 45 mins nap about 9am then 2hrs 12-2 then nothing til bedtime when they would sleep 7-7.
I think if they're napping throughout the day they are probably just doing same at night - lots of power naps.
Try getting them to have daytime naps same time every day & wake them up so they don't go too long during the day.

Just as a note on the 'bad habits'

Don't every worry about creating them. DS 18 months has always co-slept with us and been rocked to sleep, goes down independently in his cot fine now with absolutely no sleep training.

Do what you have to do to get some sleep. That is much more important.

@converseandjeans definitely not sleeping too much, it's more about him not being able to transition through sleep cycles so wakes up after 30-40minutes 😞. It would be a dream for him to sleep 2 hours at any point not on me!

@Pentium85 thanks for this, it reassures me as at 2am it's a battle between "do what you need to do" and "you're making a rod for your own back". I'm just so thankful that I don't have any other children I have to organise around this, it's all consuming isn't it!xx

Trust me, in a years time you will look back and think "why didn't I just do what felt right rather than worry about whether it was the 'right' thing"

This will all seem like such a small drop in the ocean soon, so co-sleep if you can, let them nod off on your chest, nap in the day and don't get out of your pjs. Just do what you need to do. Before you know it, there will be another phase that consumes your thoughts.

Oh no that sounds exhausting for you!