To sleep alone

[Mumtoanimals]

Hello, me again. My new born is now 12 days old, and the only way he will sleep is either on me or next to me. He refuses to go into a cot. We have brought 3 different ones over the last week, got ewan the sheep and still he will not settle in the side by side cot. He will only fall asleep in the bed with me and my partner. However my partner is so worried about hurting baby he now sleeps on the sofa at night. He goes back to work on Tuesday and works 12 hour days and cannot get a good nights sleep on a sofa. The midwife advised about placing him hin the cot with a hand on his chest, but that does nothing... any advice to move Way from co sleeping? I miss sleeping next to my partner 😥

Have you tried a swaddle? This worked for my lo?

With D2 the only way we can get her to sleep is with us. She is nearly 3 weeks old and wakes 2 or 3 times in the night and takes a good hour to settle each time.
But for the first 2 weeks she would only sleep on me or my partner. We had no choice but to have her in our bed, it was the only way anyone could get any sleep. She is a bit better now so she is improving slowly, it's just tough.
I would say just do whatever it is your baby needs to get them to sleep, it wont be forever. I feel that the sooner they feel as though they are safe and secure and that someone will come when they cry then the sooner they will sleep better at night.
D1 didnt sleep uninterrupted until she was 6 months so we kind of have that date in our minds, basically dont expect any sleep miracles until at least 6 months. Its rubbish I know but it's how babies are.

I could have written this post (in fact I did write a very similar one!). My little one is 2 weeks and will only sleep on me or my DH, she hates being on her back. We've tried cosleeping but she keeps rolling so I couldn't relax in case she couldn't breathe. We keep trying to put her in the cot but she lasts no more than 5 minutes then screams. So no advice or solution here, I just feel your pain and have been told by lots of people on here that it is normal and will pass so fingers crossed for both of us!

Sleep with your baby.

@jayalfredprufrock see comments above, we have tried but she won't sleep on her back so it's not safe

Slept with mine and it was fine.

It makes no sense to make babies sleep on their own, they have only ever known the sound of your heart and breathing. Plus most other cultures sleep with their babies. They key is to take precautions and manage the risks. For example we put the double mattress on the floor so baby couldn't roll off. My oh did not sleep with us when drinking / smoking, no duvets and pillows near baby

Exactly. I never understand this desire to get your baby to sleep all night alone in another room

I cherish every moment I slept with my Dd. And still do now she is 20.