1 year old wakes up 10pm and 2pm every night

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How do I break this habit?! I’m at my wits end!

What do you do when your toddler wakes up?

It used to be pick up and put down at 10 and she’d settle then at 2 a bottle. But now she won’t settle until she has a bottle at 10 then she’s just wide awake at 2. I’ve tried patting and not picking up. She just screams the house down. We have a 4 year old so I’m always wary of waking him. I know it’s all down to habit I just don’t know how to break it.

It's pretty normal tbh. My 18 month old still frequently wakes in the night. He might need a dummy, anbesol or another bottle. Sometimes he may settle himself after a few minutes if left but I don't like to leave him crying for long.
They do grow out of it. Until then there is caffeine!

Just seen your update, how many months is she? My son went through a regression around 17 months where he was wide awake in the middle of the night. Lasted around 3 weeks was a nightmare but it was just a phase. Hopefully your little one will grow out of it but I understand it is hard going.

She’ll be one next Friday. Finally dozing of. We’re on the sofa she’s been up since 2. Guess I’ll set up camp here! I could cope fine before but back at work now and it’s hard going. I know it’s not forever but I’m just frustrated I can’t break this, constantly questioning where I’m going wrong!!! Caffeine indeed, at least I’m working from home tomorrow!!!! Kettle will be constantly on!

Ah I'm sorry, I know it's tough. My daughter was by far a worse sleeper than my son and didn't sleep through until she was over 2 so I do understand. Sleep deprivation is by far the hardest part of parenting for me personally. It's so hard when you're back at work isnt it. I had a bad night last night with the kids was up to do the school run and am on a 12 hour night shift now. Keep telling myself it will get better. #tiredmumsclub

You don't break the habit. You continue allowing them to sleep naturally. Comfort them, feed them, nurse them back to sleep

She might be cold. Add an extra layer?

Ah @mumtumdocare well done, long day for you!

I know it’s not forever, I’m keeping going, it’s not her fault. Just wish I could help her sleep better! She looks as shattered as me most mornings!

@BecauseReasons I recently started taking her vest off because she seemed too hot, maybe I’ll try popping it back on later, I do always wonder about her arms because although she has long sleeves on they’re outside the sleeping bag? I know I like to have mine tucked in with me

This can be caused by napping problems. What times are her naps?

You have my sympathies as my 15 mo DD is the same. She’s been waking up really upset and crying hysterically though so I’m thinking it might be her teeth as she still has quite a lot to come through yet. I’ve just been giving Calpol and a bottle and she’s settled again fairly quickly. I’m hoping once these teeth appear it’ll ease off!!

@GenevaMaybe about 9 then 2. About 2 hours on a morning and 45 mins/an hour on the afternoon? Bedtime is 6:30.

@OpticVA I had wondered about her teeth but she’s just wide awake not overly upset. Just wants my company

Yes the issue is that the morning nap is too long and too early. That causes night waking and/or very early morning waking.

You can reduce the morning nap down and start it later, eventually by around 14/15 months you are aiming for one nap of around 2 hours at midday.

@GenevaMaybe What time and how long would you recommend for naps then? I think she’s going down early because she’s tired from the night but I need to break that. Has to tie in round nursery run too! 8:30-11:30

I would do
7am wake and breakfast
9.30-10 nap
10.30 fruit snack
12.00 lunch
1-3 nap
3pm yoghurt
5pm dinner
6pm bath
6.30 bottle
7pm bed

7am wake up is more than optimistic in our house haha. Thanks! I’m actually going to give it a shot. She is asleep now, will wake her a bit earlier than usual and see how we go. I’ll try anything!

You are aiming to reduce that morning nap down over the next 6-8 weeks so it’s just 10-15 mins then it’s gone.

Well yesterday she
napped about 9:15-10:30
Snack
Walk to fetch from nursery
Lunch
Nap 1-1:30
Snack
Tea
Bottle downstairs instead of feeding to sleep
Up for a couple of stories
Put her down to sleep from awake

She slept through to 12:30, small bottle then slept 1-6:15!!!!

So much better!!!!

Thank you @GenevaMaybe will try similar tonight!

That is much better!! Yes just try and keep really consistent, stick at it and hopefully she’ll get the hang of it