10 month wont go in cot once woken - PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[emmywoo]

Hi, I have a 10 dd who has recently started to wake in nihgt. I am sure that this is due to teething, she has 2 bottom and the 2 font top are breaking through. Some nights all I need to do is go into her, give her her dummy and she falls back to sleep immediately. However............ last night for example ( this happens at least 3 times a week) when i went into her she was stood up, I lay her back down and she just screamed.( i have tried cc but she was so upset and wound up that she was sick twice so we gave up). In the end I picked her up and she fell asleep on me more or less immediately. After about 10 mins I went to put her in her cot and as soon I made the movement to do so she woke up. This went on all night and in the end I had to sleep on the floor with her next to me. I am so tired today and emotional I just don't know what to do, can anyone please help.

DD2 did this for a while. I used to get her out and offer water then put back in.

The only thing that worked for me was as soon as she stood up I would get up and lie her back down. She screamed, I did it over and over some nights. You have to be boring, no eye contact, no talking, no shushing or patting or kisses. Boring mummy not worth waking up for.
To be fair tho she wasn't teething at the time so it's up to you. She soon stopped waking after a few nights like that. She was waking out of habit for milk. Now if she stands up and I get out of bed she sits back down cos she knows I will just lie her back down. Tho she is nearly 13 mths now too.

You poor thing - that sounds so stressful and knackering. How many weeks has this been going on for and what time of night is she waking? They say real teething pain lasts for 4 days before eruption, the day of eruption and 3 days afterwards - does this fit in with how long she's been teething for do you think? Also - does she get this stressed in the day about anything? i.e. is this her usual way of responding to stress / tiredness / feeling poorly?

What would happen if you didn't go in to her room at all but just made a sound (e.g rustling, clear your throat or walking about rather than talking) outside her room so that she knows your there? My DD goes off on one if I go in or speak but seems to be reassured that I am there if she can hear me shifting about - it seems to avoid the whole 'tantrum' bit. If I go in it escalates and then she has to restart the whole trying to settle thing. If you genuinely think it's pain, then perhaps a dose of infant neurofen / medised at bedtime?

Hi, thanks for replying so quickly. I give her Medised and teething powder b4 bed. I just don't understand why she can fall asleep so quickly on me but as soon as I try to put her back in cot she immediately wakes even before her body has hit the mattress.
Some people on here that I have seen say that Infant Nurofen works better than Medised, what are your thoughts? I will try out your seggestions re: making a sound but am wary that if she gets worked up again she will be sick like she was when we tried controlled crying.

Hi there - are you medicating her every night? It does sound like she's after the comfort more if she settles so quickly - I'm afraid to say it but I think you may just have to persevere - as long as she's not ill etc etc - my friend described hers as screaming, shaking the bars of the cots, being sick and grabbing her round her neck and not letting her go. She said that it actually didn't take too long to get them sorted though and she would always do it when her DH was working nights as he was inclined to waver. The trouble is that when you're tired (understatement) it's so easy to waver. Your DP would be the best one perhaps to try and settle her first but only after 10 mins of screaming rather than just moaning I would say - there's always the chance that she will start to settle herself so listen to see if the type of cry changes AT ALL before you go racing in. She should theoretically be able to sit herself down again too, so you may think it's worth a try not bothering to lie her down