Mum on the edge baby won’t settle

[dantiasmith]

So my daughter is about to turn 12 months old and I haven’t slept in about 2 months. She goes down at 7pm has a bottle and a cuddle and goes right to bed. But she will wake at 11and 2 and 4 each time for about an hour. I’ve tried rocking her and cuddling her, not picking her up, controlled crying(she will just not self soothe and will just cry ALL night. I’m on the edge of a mental breakdown I think. I’m so sleep deprived I’m making myself really unwell.

I've had these phases with my 20mo. All I can say is it does pass. Could someone cover a night for you just to get you a tiny respite?

Does she have more milk in the night? What food is she having, and when is her last meal?
Regarding naps, what time is the afternoon nap?

She has never been a milk baby. Will not drink more than 4oz per bottle of a good day 🙄. (She is also CMPA so cant have any dairy). She has tea at 5pm and bottle at 7pm.
Naps about 45 mins in the morning and an hour and a half in the middle of the afternoon.

She will go to her Nan’s but it’s not fair on them, they are getting older.

If she is getting 12 hours sleep at night she only requires 2-2:15 hrs/mins nap a day. Our son does 7-7, has a nap from 12-2:15 or if he is tired in the morning he has a quick 10 mins at 9:45ish. Protein with every meal also helps aid sleep. There is also a transition at this age where they try to fight sleep then are too tired to settle properly. We follow the little ones guide and it's a god send

she ain’t getting 12 hours sleep at night😂😂 last night between 7pm - 7am she has had 8.5 hours sleep😫

Sorry see I’m so tired that was meant to say 7.5hrs

Try cutting down the day naps to help with longer sleep at night? I know it's not easy, our son just turned one and I'm 27 weeks pregnant So I feel the lack of sleep haha.

Have you tried a white noise machine? We also had to put the cot on the lowest setting because our son would try and grab anything he could whilst standing up 🙈

We do 5pm dinner like you, let him roam around the floor till 6pm, bath for 15-20 mins then bottle, dress him and read to him. I read somewhere that if you do bottle right before bed that just makes them associate it with sleep.

She's probably mega over tired by the sounds of it.
Stopping her day sleeps would make things worse.

Have you tried white noise? I use the hairdryer on the baby+ app and works like a charm. I starts it off reasonably loud but I reduce the volume a lot so as not to damage the hearing and leave it running through nap times. I use it to get my boy off to sleep at night but he doesn't need it all night strangely.

Also, you mention cmpa...I went down that road convinced my boy had it. I went to Dr he told me not to change my diet I went home ate a fuck tonne of cheese and lo! My little one was absolutely fine. It was all in my head and other posters online and the cmpa Facebook group had convinced me he had it, when he didn't at all!

When my DC went through this I just did whatever I could to get them (and me) back to sleep as soon as possible. This meant a bit of co-sleeping - but it was sleeping!