HELP ME. IVE BEEN TRYING TO GET MY BABY TO SLEEP FOR HOURS

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Please help me.

My partner is away. I've been trying to get my baby to sleep for 5 hours.

He won't sleep. He goes from laughing/crying hysterically.

We started bedtime at 5.30pm. He was asleep by 6.15pm. Woke up 25 mins later.

I don't know what to do.

I'm at breaking point.

Help

i can also relate to you @FeeFee832 because it's our first time to have baby and we are also having some problems with our 1 month old boy. we asked some advice from our friends and yet all of their advice didn't worked for us. out of our desperation and sleepless nights, we searched on internet and fortunately found this bit.ly/39UJBp1 and hopefully might also help you. :)

Hello! So baby didn't sleep, woke every 45 mins. At 7am, I took him into our bed and he slept with me till 1pm.

Threw the routine out the window. He had 3 random long naps. Bath at 7pm, asleep at 8pm (going against the routine book), he has been asleep ever since!!!

Drank half a bottle of red in celebration with my hubby is home and feel like a brand new woman! I was in a really dark place and it got worse at the night progressed.

Routine may be for some but forcing our baby to eat and sleep at set times doesn't work. As long as bathtime is around 6/7pm every night and a couple of naps, I think that's best. He was sleeping 10-12 hours a night before I started the stupid routine.

Thanks so much for all the support. I really needed it. It's funny how bad things can seem in the evening and in the light of day things are so much better.
Kind words go very far too xx

Good !! It’s amazing how awful things can feel when you’re I the thick of it. Good luck. Sounds sensible - you sometimes just have to adapt what may be great for others to suit your own baby’s needs.

Yes. You are right. This is exactly what we did. DS1 needed a short morning nap and a long afternoon one. DS2 the other way around. So around the 10-12 week mark I kept a diary for 10 days of when they each roughly fed and slept and then nudged them on to ‘their’ routine with a loose post 6:30ish bedtime routine. (Followed by feeds in the dark). It worked both times and now they are 8 and 3. I eat and sleep ROUGHLY at the same time every day but not exactly and I found that treating my babies the same way worked.
And worked through the toddler years. DS1 really needed lunch by noon but was never very hungry in the morning. DS2 has a huge breakfast but a much smaller lunch which he can have closer to 1 (and if he’s had a big breakfast and a big snack closer to 1:30).
This is why routines in books are not always helpful- if you use them as the roughest of guidelines and follow your child’s cue it usually works much better.

I know, so stupid to try and nail routine when my husband was away too. I thought it would be nice for him to come back and everything be nailed on. Not absolute carnage/chaos and a broken wife.

So glad our boy is sleeping again.... he's been asleep for 4 hours solid now. I can hear him stirring but that's totally fine! I'll feed and help him back to sleep... without the tears this time!

Just feeding him and his eyes are closed. I'm 99% sure he will go back to sleep.

I fed to sleep till about 8 months and then sleep trained v gently. (And co slept).
First I would stop the feed before sleep and tuck him in and pat. Till he was asleep.
This was still in my bed.
Then once he was used to falling asleep with pats not boob I kept a food diary so I was reassured he was getting enough food and milk. Then stopped feeding between 10-4 for a month, only patting.
And then dropped the 10 pm feed.
Then I moved him into a cot in my room, still patting to sleep and feeding once at 4 am.
Then gradually reduced the pats till he just needed tucking in. And finally till I could tuck in and leave. And then finally stopped the 4 am feed after his first birthday.
I did this (roughly) with both kids. So I sleep trained without tears, gently pushing their boundaries each time and not expecting miracles.
As I said they are 8 and 3 and are both excellent sleepers and we never had any sleep regressions or any of that.

Well done Mama!!! You won the sleep war!