the last week or so my 3 month old has been going to bed as usual at about 10pm. we then do a night feed when she wakes around 2:30-3:30am. she used to sleep through til about 7am after this feed, but she’s started waking up crying at 5am.
she is definitely still tired at this time because as soon as i pick her up, she falls asleep! i’ve tried the pick up put down method, she just cries and cries every time she is put down, and keeps going until it’s 7am and then she starts her hungry cry. we’ve also tried altering bedtime, this doesn’t work either. i think 10pm is as late as i’d want her bedtime anyway, and having an earlier bedtime makes it worse.
the only way i can get her to stop crying and sleep longer is if i hold her or put her next to me in the bed - which i don’t want to get in the habit of because i know how unsafe co-sleeping is (and dont tell me it’s fine as long as you follow the safe sleep 7, i’m always knackered from the lack of sleep so don’t feel that i’m following the safe sleep 7 properly).
is this normal? what can i do to save myself from going insane every morning or putting her in danger by falling asleep holding her or putting her in my bed unsafely?? i’m at a loss of what to do.