5 month old, help please 😊

[Tashh13]

Hi everyone. First time mum here desperately looking for some guidance from some experienced mums 🙈
My LO is nearly 5 months old and he is EBF. I am a single 28 year old mum and live at home with my parents, who are incredible.
But at the minute I'm struggling with a few things, I thought being a Mum would come naturally to me but I find myself struggling to cope with alot.
Up until 2 and a half months he slept okish, but then started refusing naps and night time sleep, so I gave him a dummy to help. And then the 4 month regression hit and I probably took advantage of the dummy and now he is 100% reliant on it to fall to sleep. I feel awful as I feel I have hindered his ability to fall to sleep on his own, and every time he spits it out (alot at night 😭) he wakes up crying for it. If he spits it out after I put it in, I normally feed him, which can be once or twice a night. I feed him 4/5 times during the day so I didn't know if he wasn't getting enough food from me. So I'm slowly introducing him to some food, mashed banana and rusks etc.
Also i have to swaddle him still as he just pulls the dummy away and his moro reflex is there ever so slightly. He has started rolling over but he's in a sleepy head so can't roll over in his crib.
He is really good in the sense that he will only nap in his Next to me crib, but know I'm so scared to go round any of my families/friends house as he wont sleep anywhere else and where he only really has an awake window of a couple of hours by the time I get somewhere after feeding him I'd have to come home. I know this won't last forever and I'm enjoying every minute with my beautiful boy but has anyone got any tips on whether or not/how to get him off of needing the dummy to fall to sleep, like time intervals of me giving it back to him etc, as I put it straight back in straight away. Or do I suck it up and let him keep going waking up every hour or so in the night and wait for him to be able to put it back in on his own?
Plus with the swaddling, no one can look after him as he needs to be swaddled etc, so in 5 months I haven't left him once and I'm desperate for a little me time, but he does get a bit frustrated being swaddled but he just plays when he has one arm or both out. Do I just need to try things out to see if it works?
One last thing, when people say put them down drowsy, I normally put him in his crib awake the minute I see he's tired and then pop the dummy in and he can be asleep within 5 minutes, othertimes he can protest, but to make him drowsy, surely I need to rock him or something, and that's another sleep association, not that he likes me rocking him and he doesn't like laying down in my arms anymore 🙈
So sorry this was long winded, if anyone has even just a small tip, I'd be forever grateful. Thank you!

My 5.5 month old is reliant on a dummy to go off, but once she's sort of asleep she spits it out and stays asleep. She's learnt over time to suck on it properly, but we've had some teething this week and when woken the night she does need it popped back in then goes off again. I would say 5 months is too old to be swaddled BUT you know your baby best :) I've literally just made the move from a moses basket to a cot bed, and I was dreading it but she's slept SO much better being sprawled out. She does mess around in there, grabs her feet, pulls at the mattress etc but eventually gets bored and drops off. I also get where you're coming from regarding awake windows and going out. When I'm out at my mums no problem vlem as she has a cot, but the MIL has no baby bits and when she's tired I've had to lie on the bed with her whilst I'm there. Once you get them in a cot, I think it's easy then to get yourself a travel cot and take it somewhere with u? You sound like a brilliant mum so my suggestions would be stop swaddling and let his arms and legs sprawl out, he will play but go off eventually. At 4.5 months I started letting my baby have a whinge before I ran to her. She was only crying because she dropped the dummy and once she learnt I wouldn't keep going back in super quick, she started keeping it in. Best of luck x

Thanks so much for your reply!
He very rarely falls to sleep, spits it out and stays asleep. If he does, it literally lasts minutes. I dread night time so badly 😖
I definitely agree that 5 months is too old to be swaddled. So the last couple of nights I haven't swaddled him, I thought he doesn't sleep well anyway, I may aswell just stop it. Last night was horrendous, could be a bit of everything, dummy falling out, teething and not being swaddled. I just think, when am I going to get more than a couple of broken hours sleep!? 😭
So would you maybe recommend removing the sleepy head out of his Next to me crib? I know it's your opinion, but I'd take any advice I can get at the minute 😂 and when would you say is a good time to move them into a cot?
Yeah I've tried letting him having a whinge for a few minutes when the dummy falls out but he has none of it. How are these babies so clever!? 🙈 I literally just want to be able to put him to bed and have an hour to myself, instead of thinking I must go to bed because his dummy will be falling out any minute.
Thanks again, I need all the luck I can get haha! x