Another cosleeping thread....

[SundayGirlB]

How do you do it safely? I've looked and Lullaby trust guidelines but wonder how it works in practice. Am I right in thinking guidelines mean no pillow or duvets? Seem cold. Also, worried baby will roll off bed and bed can't go against a wall - anyone use a bedguard?

Managed to resist until 8 months but lack of sleep won in the end. Baby sleeps well until 3am then won't settle in his cot so comes in with me - DH in spare room. I couldn't take the mental strain of being up every 30mins to settle him in the wee hours. It's a regular thing now and we are all happier.

Hi I'm a reluctant co sleeper to a nearly 7 month old- I put her in a sleep sack between me and the bed guard (babydan are good) then I sleep without a pillow with my head at her knee level and wrap myself in my part of the duvet if that makes sense!! Some say to use a warm cardi on top and duvet waist down or a single sleeping bag for you- but I find just shuffling down so my head is always lots lower than hers works for me x

I wear thick joggers, a vest and a long sleeved top so no part of me is ever really exposed. I also use a hot water bottle at my feet and have the duvet over my legs (nowhere near the baby). I do use pillows but I have my arm in front of them so between the babys head and the pillow. I basically form a 'C' shape around the baby. I'm also a very light sleeper which (rightly or wrongly) reassures me.

Can't sleep without a pillow so will try the shuffle method and sleeping bag I think!

Really trying to get him back into his cot as I don't sleep well when we cosleep.

I use a pillow but sleep on the edge of it with the rest of it behind my head if that makes sense, so it's a good distance from the baby. His cot is tethered to the bed so he sleeps on that side mostly. I'll move him into it eventually as I did with his older brother.

I assume at 8 months your baby can roll, sit up etc. If that's the case I would be less worried. I use a pillow and a single duvet wrapped round me. I also sent DH to the spare room and have a big bed so I can feed and then wriggle away.

Cosleeping since 8 month also, LO is now 18months. Our bed is against wall, I sleep in a tight polo neck from h and m with two slits in the front for easy boob access and it keeps me really warm. I use a pillow but keep my arm in between her and the pillow. I sleep with the duvet wrapped around me at waist level her in her sleeping bag next to me. We sleep great!

It's easier now she's bigger although she can get over me in her sleeping bag and has opened the door so now have a baby gate out side the bedroom door.

I have co slept with my third from day one

He is still in with me and now almost two years and three months so he has a pillow and we have sheets and blankets.

I still have an extra long and extra high bed guard that I’ve used from day one it’s really good as it folds down too. Attached a photo as lots are not suitable for adult sized beds !

Apart from no duvet you just also have a firm mattress that has not got a memory foam filling

When he was tiny I had him in a sleeping bag and I had a toddler pillow I slept a bit lower down on my side with a cardigan and a button down nightie for feeds. When he’s fed and was settled I shuffled back down and kind of rolled my lower half in a blanket.

We also have a lamp with a very dim bulb on so it’s not pitch black

It’s just me in there on my own with him and like PP I am also a very light sleeper.

I’ve coslept with this one since day one. Now 13months. DH sleeps on the other side of me with a single duvet. I have a pillow but my arm is always between baby and pillow as pp has said. Fleece blanket over my lower half, which I tuck between my legs to keep it anchored. Wear breastfeeding top, a regular T-shirt and a fleece dressing gown and I am a good temperature. Baby in sleeping bag. Until they could sit up, we used a foam bed guard; now we have a longer mesh one. Baby sleeps between me and the bed guard. You do need a tightly rolled towel or blanket between the bed and the guard as there is always a bit of a gap.

Oh and like pp we have a nightlight so it’s not ever pitch black: I want to be able to see immediately where baby is if I wake.