I can't believe I'm back on this board again, having been on it Terry years ago for ds1(who is now fine!!).
Basically my dc2, at 12 weeks is a nightmare to get to sleep in the daytime, and at bedtime.
She only reliably sleeps in arms. I swaddle her as she goes berserk trying to chew hands... And can do this for ages, getting more abc more wound up. She has rejected a dummy despite numerous attempts.
She sometimes sleeps in carrier but not always.
She sometimes sleeps during breastfeeding but not always, sometimes she is so full up it makes her more distressed, but she just had to suck on something.
I watch for sleepy cues and try to get her down ASAP, when I do that she will go down easily enough bit it's exhausting for me as usually after an hour of awake time only... and not sustainable as my toddler needs time and attention and we have to leave the house!!
I cant see how I will manage to get her to nap in cot ie patting, persisting with a routine... with toddler at home all day I simply do not have the time this time around and don't want her screaming while he is trying to eat, sleep etc. I can't just disappear off upstairs for hours trying to sort her sleep out.
I'm at a loss, I feel almost sick at the thought of how I'm going to get her to nap each day, it's all consuming. If she doesn't sleep she's a hysterical mess. My arms ache from holding her, I'm getting migraines more often. Honestly if there was a good way of consistently getting her to sleep, I would do it, I would do whatever it took. Eg if she only slept in carrier, I'd do it every time and get on with it.
I feel so desperate. I have lots of family help but it's not every day, and each day feels worse than the last.
Sorry this isn't making much sense. I'm so tired (as is everyone on this board!!).