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What am I doing wrong?

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Slink56 · 03/02/2020 21:35

My 7 month old was a good little sleeper once her reflux was under control. She has slept through the night from about 3 months old with a bit of a dip from 5 months where I think she had a sleep regression. The last few weeks however have been hell. Much worse than having a newborn.
She refuses to nap... which in turn is affecting her sleeping at night. When she does nap it's for 30-50 mins and it is a fight to even get her down for that long. She screams because she is tired but then wont sleep.
I've tried routinely putting her down, tried doing it earlier or later, at first signs of tiredness and just at certain times... tried holding her and just putting her in her cot.. tried hush and pat ... nothing works. She is constantly grouchy and night times are now a similar battle. She will be in bed for half 7 nightly... baths dont work as she screams when she has to come out and are not settling for her. My husband has to put her to sleep as she refuses for me. I'm just starting to feel so helpless. I hate leaving her to scream but I'm running out of options. She used to be such a happy baby but spends so much time now screaming and being over tired. She isnt teething yet despite showing some signs a month ago which seem to have stopped since.

I'm just at a loss what to do now and feel lost trying to establish any sleep for her at all. I feel like I'm failing her and just see no end to whatever it is she is going through.

I have an appointment with my HV tomorrow but I just need someone to tell me what to do as the constant screaming and lack of sleep is just getting too much.

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Slink56 · 04/02/2020 20:29

Tonight she has woken 5 times since we put her down an hour ago. Hv have offered me no advice that I've not already tried.

Can anyone help? :-(

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sh13 · 04/02/2020 20:52

FlowersDid she have a late nap today ? Do you think maybe she’s not tired enough if she’s woken 5 times in last hour ? My 8 month old only naps for 30 mins-very annoying. Could it be the next sleep regression ? Mines been so unsettled in the past few weeks it’s been awful through the night but he’s teething aswell. Or could she be feeling ill? Ear infection?

sh13 · 04/02/2020 20:57

Also when my baby was fighting naps like yours( he did this for a while) i resorted to putting him in the pram and pushing indoors or go for a walk it’s only in the past few days I’ve managed to put him in the cot awake and he’ll self settle- so there is hope !

Slink56 · 10/02/2020 22:29

Thank you for your response... it's so appreciated. I just feel at the end of my tether. I've tried so many different things. She has had a tummy bug over the weekend so any small semblance of a routine is now up in smoke as she slowly recovers and regains an appetite. She has napped twice for about 30mins today.. I put her to bed early at 6PM as she was so exhausted but woke at 7PM and screamed all the way through to 10pm. She didnt want milk, cuddles... nothing worked.

I'm losing the will to live here... it's just so hard.

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KidneyChaos · 11/02/2020 13:35

She does sound overtired, especially if she's been unwell. That can have a disastrous impact on routines!

Is there anywhere she does like to sleep, in the car? in a buggy? etc. When my dd was overtired, I'd take her out for a drive or a walk in the buggy just to let her get some rest and try to get us back on routine. (but never leave them unattended though in a carseat or buggy to sleep!)

I also found by age 2 that she was beginning to learn about bedtime, and we started a routine. Baths never worked for us either, she'd have too much fun hahaha. Our routine looks like this:

1730 - Dinner
1830 - Pjs, peepee & teeth
1845 - Quiet time
1900 - Up to bed. I'd get her into bed, with me snuggled in with her. We'd read a couple of stories which I let her chose and then I turn the light off telling her it's time for bed.

Now, when she was 2 it took a while for this to really work, but it was worth it. She's now 4 and knows exactly what her routine is. During the routine, I would just reiterate what was happening and what would happen next so she got used to it.

It's not easy, you're not doing anything wrong. The fact you are asking for advice shows you're trying your absolute best. Hang in their mummy

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