9 week old sleep woes

[Duggeeismysaviour]

Argh

My 9 week old is a terrible napper... Only thing guaranteed to help is walking with pram outside. Not inside. Not stopping. Letting her sleep on me will usually keep her asleep but not always.
When she doesn't nap well, she becomes overtired then hysterical and nothing works to settle her, not even BF. She can then be awake for 4-5h. I may get her down in this time by spending 30 mins bouncing around,but she will wake after 10-20mins.

I used to read these threads and think, oh she's only 9 weeks, just do what it takes, hold her close etc but... I have a 2 year old so this simply isn't possible. She is very variable regarding whether she will sleep in sling, usually if I can get her down she will wake at the sounds of my toddler living his toddler life.

I'm at my wite end already. Every day is miserable. I don't knew what to do. I don't have the time, mental resources, or quiet house to get her to sleep the way I did with ds1 (who is now a champion sleeper). I honestly don't know what to do, am I really going to have to resort to sleep training for naps so early on??

No, I wouldn't be sleep training such a young baby...

You just need to deal with it and put her first above everything else.

My heart goes out to you, I remember how difficult that age was. DS was like that, would only sleep up to 30 minutes no matter what I did, and only while being carried. Couldn't put him down as he'd wake up instantly 9 out of 10. Such a pain :(

Please please don't try to sleep train her, certainly not at that age. She's still in the fourth trimester and so small, she really needs to be close to you. It's only natural and nothing that should be corrected, although I know it makes your life so much harder. Is there anyone who could come and help with your toddler? Try to use any help you can get.

After much frustration with DS not sleeping, in the end I had to accept it's just the way it is. I couldn't force him to sleep so I just strapped him in a sling as that gave us the best chances, and went on about my business as best as I could. And mentally prepared myself that if he got hysterical, I'd just get through it somehow.

You can handle this.

And it will go away sooner than you think. My DS turned into a solid napper pretty soon and now at 2 still sleeps 2 hours a day easily.
Good luck

Thanks Frezia, I appreciate it.

Horehound... Truly unhelpful

So hard, especially with a toddler to entertain. But I do think 9 weeks is too young to sleep train, they're not developed enough for it to be effective. Have you tried white noise whilst she's in the pram or moses basket? Have you tried swaddling? Lying her on a tshirt of yours you've worn recently that smells of you? Even doing all of the above at the same time. There's no miracle cures, God I wish there was! Maybe have a search for sleep and babies in the search bar as I'm sure there's plenty of older feeds with advice, too.

Just want to say I'm in solidarity with you. Currently have my 9 week old little boy sprawled on my chest as we managed a whopping 17 minutes of him asleep in the next to me whilst I got changed (stealthily in another room may I add so not to disturb him 😂🤦‍♀️)

He is also a shit sleeper on a night. Last night we got a two hour stretch for the first time ever - usually it's 20-45 mins ten times a night.
I'm lucky in that DS is my only one, I can't imagine how hard it must be with another little one to run around after.
Sending hugs x