My daughter is 15 months and has always co slept. She had a next to me crib for about a year (mainly as a safety net) and after attempting to get her to sleep in her own room I gave up and moved the cot in with me, took the side off and put it next to my bed. I'm a lone parent by choice.
Currently with me she will only feed to sleep. She goes down in the cot at some point between 6pm and 7pm, and will sleep in roughly hour long bursts until I go up to bed, when she usually moves in with me. Then she goes 2-3 hours between waking (occasionally longer). She feeds to sleep at each waking, but because she is in with me it is just a matter of pulling her closer and plugging her in.
Is it possible to change without traumatising both of us? I'd love her to stop feeding to sleep, and to sleep for longer stretches. I'd like to have my room back so I can read in bed, but at the moment I can't see a way to stop. I tried reading books for advice but they made me feel terrible - I should have been doing X, Y and Z from this date etc.
When I tried to get her to sleep in her own cot/room we had two nights of screaming/sobbing each time I put her in there, and each time I gave up after two hours of comforting and putting her back/leave and return.
Is there an answer, or should I accept that this is my life? I can cope if it is, but I feel I should try. She has her 12 month jabs on Thursday so I'm wary of starting anything just yet, but want to be prepared...