Next to me - advice

[Thatsnotmynameisit]

My daughter is 2 week old, she sleeps fine throughout the day whether it be in her moses basket downstairs, on someone, in the bouncy chair thing or on the sofa next to someone.
But when it comes to bedtime - she only sleeps for 10mins at a time in the next to me crib, then starts to stir and gets really frustrated kicking her legs and cries until she's picked up. She was the same in the moses basket up here too. I just dont know how to settle her and keep her asleep when she comes to bed, I'm spending most if the night with her on me as it's the only way she'll settle upstairs. Any advice please for a very tired first time mum?

Have you tried white noise? You can download apps on your phone which helped my when DD was newborn.
Is she well winded? Do you use a dummy?

Congratulations on your baby! I would advise that you look up safe co-sleeping. My 3 month old's night time sleep has improved so much since I started at 4 weeks or so. Are you breastfeeding?

Have you tried swaddling?

For first few weeks we brought moses basket upstairs and sat it in next to me then transitioned to next to me on it's own as he struggled with same. Ds was a big baby but still seemed tiny in crib and seemed to feel more secure in basket initially. Congratulations!

Well she actually managed an hour and 10mins in there after I posted until her next feed!

@Bluebell9 I have a Ewan the Sheep but that doesn't make much difference atm but will try something different on my phone, thank you. We do use a dummy but she doesn't want it the majority of the time and she is pretty easy to wind. I always wind her for 20mins+ even if she's burped straight away just incase theres anything else to come up

@Secretlifeofme imo really don't want to co-sleep, as tempting as it is. I'm a very heavy sleeper and it's not worth the risk imo
Formula feeding

@Horehound I need to try swaddling, she seems to like having her arms out though. I have a grosnug which I can put her arms into, should I give that a try?

@owlalwaysloveyou the first few nights we did the same and she slept ok, but gradually she seemed to get worse as I put her in the moses basket at night. The switch from day to night in her sleeping is like 2 different babies. I do feel like the crib seems way too big for her at the moment but she hates the moses basket even more than the crib at night

Thanks for the responses everyone x

UYeh, can always give it a try!

For first month at least but. Maybe for first two months my boy only slept on me. I just used a V pillow to hold me in place and it worked fine although I'm a light sleeper anyway

@Thatsnotmynameisit hi my love. I'd defo try swaddling, if you have a sleepyhead my little boy wouldn't sleep in the next to me alone, so I put the sleepyhead in the crib and he slept soooo well!! Xx

@Delilah7 I've been looking at the sleepyhead, thank you

@Horehound I think she's preferring to be me rather than anything else, it's hard to keep awake so I'll try the V pillow to help me too thanks x

Sleepyheads are thought to be associated with SIDs and aren't recommended

Are you familiar with the fourth trimester? Explains a lot about normal newborn behaviour and what to expect. Do you have a partner who could share shifts in the night so you both get a block of sleep?

My son didn't like swaddling. We struggled to get him to settle at night until we realised that we were trying to get him to sleep too much during the day as it made our lives easier.

We had a Ewan the sheep but found that when he went off it caused more of a distraction so we got a small white noise machine off of Amazon. He still has this at 11 months and it goes to the childminder with him.

My 3 week old DD is small enough to sleep across the Next to Me - so with her head at the edge and her feed next to me. That seems to keep her asleep longer - perhaps because it doesn't feel so big for her?

@MrsPatrickDempsey I've briefly read some bits, I need to read more I think

@Jessie9323 that makes some sense to be fair, we can get bits done around the house when she's asleep through the day. She just doesn't even fight it through the day though, just on a night. Do you think because the sheep isn't constant noise it wakes them up again?

@Peony99 I think my DD would probably fit that way too.. might give that a try

@Thatsnotmynameisit yes that's what I think re Ewan the sheep. He would get used to the noise being on and relax then almost realise it had stopped.
We use his nap times to get everything done around the house so understand what you mean. He currently has a 2 hour lunch nap and that's my most productive time of the day haha. We have had him on a sleep program since about 6 weeks when I was struggling with an infection and lack of sleep. They aren't for everyone but it made a lot of sense to us. We would try and get him to sleep before we had our dinner etc then wonder why he wouldn't want to go to sleep at night. I'm 5 months pregnant with our second so will be using the same program on the new baby and my will be 15 month old at the same time haha.

We had this too - to be honest, I spent most of the first few weeks asleep on the sofa with DS in his Moses basket on the floor next to me. Gradually, he got used to the Next To Me and sleeps all night in it now (he's 5 months). I think it was too big at first plus he seems to like a bit of light/noise.

If you roll up a small towel into a sausage shape and put it under the cot sheet in a U shape under her bum like a little half nest sometimes it makes them feel a bit more snug or like someones holding them. And as its only near their legs there's no safe sleeping risks like the sleepyhead