Napping away from home.

[Narlat]

Hi all my 4 month old sleeps well at night she needs re settling maybe once or twice between 7 and 7. She naps twice a day in her cot any where between 40 mins to 2 hours. But she is always swaddled or else she will not go off.
My question is how do I get her to snooze outside of the house. She very rarely sleeps in her car seat or her pram. My in-laws have offered to have her for the day but I know she won't sleep with out her swaddle. I was at a friend's the other day for a coffee and we had just come from group. I know she was tired but she refused to go off.
I feel like everything I do is creating a rod for me. I just want her to be able to snooze out and about and in her cot when at home.
Am I asking to much and should just accept a very cranky baby when we are out in the day time?

I would have thought 4 months quite old for swaddling but why can't you do that when out?
Also you may be surprised but your in laws will be able to cope and may get her to sleep another way! I looked after a one year old one evening, her parents came home shocked that she was fast asleep in her cot - I just put her to bed as one would at what i thought normal bedtime but they said as they didn't have a set routine and had certain bedtime rituals she'd still be awake. I think it was because i was doing it not her parents.

She throws her arms about which keeps her awake. I guess I need to bite the bullet and just un swaddle her and face the music for a week or so.
I've tried a few weeks ago but she just refused to sleep and ended up in a complete state!
I really don't want to swaddle at people's house when out and about but it really is at the moment the only way to get her to sleep. She tends to suck on her hands all night again keeping her awake!!!
I know they will be OK it's just worry I guess

Why can't you just give your inlaws the swaddle?

I can and I'm sure they would use it. But what about when I'm just out and about. I don't want to have to rely on it. And it would be nice for her to just go to sleep. Maybe Im asking to much. I know there is no quick fix but I can wish really bloody hard lol.