Is my 4½ month old baby's sleep normal?

[meganm94]

My 4½ month old dd's sleep is horrendous! She has never been a good sleeper and up until we hit the 4 month sleep regression, she would have a handful of 10/20 minute cat naps in the day and wake 3-4 hourly in the night, with the odd night doing a good 6 hour stretch (but this really was once in a blue moon). However, these past 3 weeks or so she has been waking literally every half an hour, sometimes less, both at nap times and through the night. She wakes so often I don't even get chance to fall asleep after I've settled her before she is awake again and I am exhausted! ☹️ I absolutely dread bed time because I just don't even see the point in me trying to go to sleep any more and I'm so tired I'm starting to lose patience with dd and I feel awful for it, but I'm just so so tired! 😭
I'm just at that point now where I'm wondering if this is normal and how long I should go on like this. Should I speak to a HV or GP? I just don't want to be that mum that moans because she's not getting any sleep and just get the 'well you had a baby, what did you expect?' kind of reaction. It just feels like every body else's baby is sleeping but mine!
She is otherwise a very happy and contented baby and doesn't show any signs of being tired, despite having so little sleep! She's not grumpy and very rarely cries unless I'm trying to get her to sleep.
What was everyone else's experience with the 4 month sleep regression and is anyone else's baby like this? Just feel a bit on my own. ☹️

Also forgot to mention that I bought the Little Ones sleep program out of desperation and have been following their suggested napping/feeding schedule and advice for sleep environment/associations for the last month, but this doesn't seem to have helped either! 😭

Following this as we have the same problem. Thanks

Sorry to hear you’re going through this OP. What is her routine for sleeping and feeding like during the day?

I find that my 5.5mth boy sleeps much better during the night when his daytime naps are better.

So, I spent 2 weeks making sure he napped for longer than 20mins at a time - usually with me holding him so he wasn't waking up between sleep cycles.

Now he's napping for longer during the day and it's had a direct impact on him sleeping better at night.

(It's still not great BTW, but it's a whole lot better than it was!)

@Piglet89 She wakes at 7.30am, has a feed, naps 9.30am-10am, has a feed, has another feed at 12pm and then naps 12.30pm-2.30pm, has a feed, has a nap 4.50pm-5pm, has a feed, has solids at 5.30pm and then bath and feed before bed at 7.30pm and then I just feed her as she needs through the night which tends to be about every 3 hours. Obviously this doesn't go to plan a lot of the time, but this is the routine we are trying to ease her into. She is breastfed but has one bottle of formula before bedtime and has no problem with feeding.