Hand hold : starting with a sleep consultant this week

[doadeer]

Nearly 1 year old DS - his sleep is awful. It takes 2-3 hours to get him to sleep most nights. I've given up recently and just had him in with me and DH is on the sofa. We never see each other.

I was so good at always putting him in his cot for 10 months but it was just so relentlessly upsetting. He would be hysterical. I tried lots of techniques and none worked - he was shaking with upset. Honestly I was at breaking point.

So finally got a sleep consultant in and they've given me a new day routine but having first proper sleep call on Tuesday. I know I'm in for such a tough week.

And honesty... It's been really sweet sleeping with him, he is so affectionate he just loves it. He strokes my face and holds my hand in the night and wakes with his cheek against mine. Its beautiful. He's going to be so upset to be back in his cot!!

No point to this post I just need some moral support... And maybe success stories from sleep consultants?! Thank you

No advice just support.
I can only imagine the stress, upset and lack of sleep you have been through to now choose a sleep consultant.
Sending lots of good sleep vibes your way.

I would hope they will do it in the most gentle way possible for him causing the least distress, good luck! My 3 year old dd comes in to my bed in the middle if the night every night, I secret love the cuddles!

Awwww. Could his cot go up against your bed?

We did have his cot in with us until 10months then we moved him into his room. Just don't know what's best anymore. We have a sofa bed in his room so I think I'll sleep in there for first few nights so he doesn't feel lonely.

I suppose the co-sleeping wouldn't be so bad if it didn't take hours for him to go to sleep. I have to lie in the dark for ages with him... It's very boring 😔

Thanks everyone appreciate your kind words

We're going through this at the moment with our almost 3 yr old. He takes a good 30-45 minutes to fall asleep, but we have to sit in his room with him. He'll then wake again before we go to bed, and have to repeat the process. Then something about 2-2:30am he'll sneak in with us and fall asleep on our bed. It massively affects our evenings. He use to sleep so well too, that's what's so frustrating.

I hope the consultant helps get you into a routine that works for all of you :)