Expectations of a 14week old baby

[Dryshampooagaintoday]

Am I expecting too much of my 14Week old baby?

All I want him to do is sleep in his snuzpod at night. I don’t expect him to have a full 6hr sleep anytime soon as he’s breastfed. but I feel like 2.5 hours at night in his snuzpod is acceptable !

At the moment he is exclusively contact sleeping, both day and night, day time he sleeps on my chest. Night time he bedshares me with me, I’m starting to resent bedtime, my relationship with my partner is really disintegrating as I’m starting to become more and more frustrated.

I’ve tried all sorts of ideas, swaddling, patting, shushing, bum patting, white noise, my shirt on his bed to make it smell of me. Anything and everything I’m sure I’ve tried it all! At first I thought, oh fourth trimester, he’s Going to grow out of it, but We’re 14weeks, 15 on Monday I feel like at least being able to sleep in his snuzpod next to me isn’t a crazy thing because I’m sure most babies have done this from birth is it?

DC1 and DC2 would have been reliably sleeping eight to ten hour stints at that age. DC4 struggled to do more than a couple of hours at twice that age!

Honestly, no matter how you feed them, babies are all different and it’s no reflection on parenting or routines; they are just born with certain personalities and very strong opinions on sleep!

the only thing I can say is that all babies are different and there should broadly be no expectations as to what they can and cant do.

Sorry- our DT’s didn’t sleep on me but they were six months before they regularly slept more than three hours at a time. With DT’s there was always one of them awake as they didn’t sleep at the same time.

If he sleeps on your chest, are you sleeping flat on your back with his facing down? It might be he has reflux/silent reflux and it’s much more comfortable than flat on his back - both facing down and being slightly raised helps babies lots with reflux and was a large part of DC4’s refusal to sleep.

Mine didn't like lying flat because of reflux. He sleeps in snuzpod now but with a cocoonababy which helps to keep him feeling secure.
I'll have to wean him out of it soon enough.

Could you see how your LO sleeps in a cozier space, like a bassinet or sleepyhead? Perhaps he just craves that comfort around him.

Mine slept through at 5 wks, BUT his feed during the day could take up to 90mins and then want more 45 mins later. At this age I don't think there's a normal

You can’t expect anything.

It’s so easy to get trapped and to get bogged down by comparing when yourself other babies and mums who have babies that sleep through and never have any issues! I have a friend who’s baby is a month younger and sleeps through 10pm-6pm and she complains she’s tired- I know we shouldn’t judge and stuff but I can’t help myself but eye roll 🙄!

@2020BetterBeBetter he sleeps face down on my chest. I have mentioned to the GP if he has reflux because he’s always been a very spitty uppy baby but they didn’t think so and that was that from them! Maybe I should have pushed a bit harder?