My 2.5 year old has never been a brilliant sleeper but also not horrendous. I’ve certainly heard worse horror stories. But I just feel so lost as to how to improve it & with a new baby due in March, I’ve no clue how we are going to do it..!
DD happily goes to bed around 7/7.30, falls asleep in 5 minutes by herself. Around 11ish, she always disturbs. Starts crying for her teddy. Teddy is usually right by her head but she makes no move to find teddy. If we don’t go give it to her, she gets more & more hysterical & waked right up. Whereas if we run in, she settles immediately back to sleep.. possible rod here? This 11pm disturb means it’s literally pointless going to bed early. Even if I did get to sleep, her crying wakes me up & I feel dreadful.
DD will then wake up around 1pm fully & come wandering into bed. We take her back to her bed. She then sings & chats to herself for a good 45 minutes before falling back asleep. Never cries but her singing is loud enough to keep me awake every flipping night. Our bedrooms are very close together. She comes wandering again around 3am. At this point, we often let her stay because we are shattered. Again, it takes her 30-45 minutes of rolling around, singing, you name it to fall back asleep. Up for the day at 5.30am.
She looks exhausted every day. Huge bags. Often totally flags by 10am & wants a nap. Nursery mention she just wants to sit & cuddle from 10-12 and she always seems knackered. She’d nap for England this child. Happily 3 hours if we met her. But we don’t. We wake her after 1/1.5 hours.
What are we doing wrong?! She just can’t seem to stay in a deep sleep overnight.. nor get herself back to sleep at night. She doesn’t cry bar the 11pm disturbance so I can’t do cry it out .. is she over tired? Do we let her catch up at nap time more? Or do we drop naps? We have tried the odd day of no nap but while she goes to bed earlier, no improvement in night sleep 
I’m so baffled & long for a proper nights sleep. I’m so jealous of all our friends whose same aged kids sleep through, no peep. Yes some wake up early or struggle at bedtime but just a solid block of 7 hours sleep would be a dream.. I can only see it getting worse when new baby arrives & she can hear us shuffling around doing nappies etc 😩
Any advice would be very welcome!