Feel wretched, please please help

[munchymoo]

Just been in the car for 45 minutes with crying overtired baby who is just 3 months old, tried to stop and comfort him but not successful, got home and he was still screaming, my 4 year old is really struggling with transition to new sibling and I had in my head that baby would sleep when we got home so that I could have some one on one time with my older child which he so desperately needs.

I was feeling so wound up in the car but held it together and tried to sing and generally be normal but just now when we got back my frustration spilt over and I put my baby down on the sofa (safely) and then picked him up again too quickly which made him cry more.

I feel like a monster. I’d never, ever hurt him but I’m now sat here sobbing for how I’ve treated my tiny little baby. Please help. Am I the only mum who has ever done this? Can anyone help me please? X

Don’t be so hard on yourself! I’m struggling to even work out what you done wrong 😂 we all get slightly frustrated when we’re tired, you’re only human. Tomorrow is a new day and your baby thinks you’re the best thing in the world. Don’t worry

Thank you @SS1987

I feel bad because I picked him up less than gently and too quickly which frightened him. His little head bopped forward which as soon as it had happened I was just horrified with myself. Am I overreacting? X

OP please don't feel guilty, we have all been there and it's a horrible feeling when you're frustration/exhaustion bubbles over. I have a 4 month old and there are a couple of times when I've felt like I've been a little less gentle (not dangerously so), but have then felt absolutely awful after and cried along with them!
You spend 99.9% of your time nurturing and loving them, don't beat yourself up about a split second thing that he would have forgotten about 10 seconds later.

I do feel for you and really hope you feel better today

I had to put my baby in his cot once and walk away down the end of the garden for half an hour. I absolutely was about to crack. It happens to us all.

Thank you ladies. Feeling bad today still but hoping it will pass soon x

Oh bless you, please don't worry. I've also been a little bit abrupt with picking up my daughter when she's been screaming for hours, I'd take it as a sign that I need to take a few deep breaths and make a cup of tea. There's not a parent alive who hasn't had their last nerve shredded by a crying baby, so please don't feel guilty. Put your baby down in his cot, where he's safe, and take a few minutes. You're doing a brilliant job.

Don't feel bad atall, please..I can tell how much you care for your children by your words. Those of us with high needs babies that don't sleep well totally understand. Just think tomorrow is a new day and hopefully a better one. Good luck x