Please help. And please be kind.
My 7 year old DD is struggling to fall asleep. I settle her for bed and she just keeps on coming out of her room repeatedly. Over the holidays it has gotten later and later to the point that is now past midnight.
I have tried to re established a bedtime routine; bath, teeth, story, bed. But despite this I still spend 3-4 hours trying to get her to stay in bed. She shares a room with her sister (12). They have bunk beds. We have no other option due to being severely limited in space. Last night they were arguing past midnight.
When she goes to bed there is always a moth/spider/fly that she is terrified of that means she can't possibly sleep in her room. My husband refuses to believe her thinking it's just for attention (whenever I've been in I've always managed to find and sort the offending insect).
The youngest often wants to "start off" on our bed as it's "more comfortable". We then have to try and move her which is easier said than done (and get her on the top bunk).
Last night after trying for hours, (and whilst I was in the bathroom) she came out again and my husband lost it. I heard him screaming at her "are you stupid? You must be stupid....". We then had an argument. I'm so upset he called her stupid. I'm wide awake now, he is snoring, she is asleep between us, and I have no idea what to say in the morning or how to handle this.
We are at the end of our tether. We don't get any time together anymore due to this constant interruption. And I'm so upset at what he said to her I just don't know what to say to him