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Please help me get some sleep!

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Livingoffcoffee · 02/01/2020 11:34

I've posted on here before about my DS's terrible sleep. Have never cracked it, just got used to the sleep deprivation I think. But am now determined to fix it as I'm worried the impact it's going to have on him if he can't start getting enough sleep. But I've read so many sleep books I think I've confused myself!

He's 11mo now. Has never once slept through. Still has 1 feed (EBF) a night (though know this isn't needed - last week he had his first night with no feed and was absolutely fine).

He typically has 1 nap, 12-3ish
Bedtime routine starts at 645/7ish with a feed, bath, change, story. Then dad gives him a short cuddle and lays him in his cot awake, rubbing his back till he's asleep.

He usually wakes 1-2 times a night. But simply going in and rubbing his back again doesn't help - so not sure it's a sleep association issue?
He'll cry - we settle him down, think he's asleep and leave the room - he'll realise we're leaving and cry again. So I end up sitting next to his cot holding his hand for 1-2hrs while he falls back asleep every night! Obviously this isn't maintainable long term!

Any suggestions??! Please!

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redwoodmazza · 02/01/2020 14:34

You seem to have conditioned him to fall asleep while having his back rubbed. What about letting him kick about with no clothes on under an activity cradle before bed, then a bath to play in, then feed followed by a wind down story and then popped straight into bed? Get him tired first!!!!
Maybe he doesn't need so much of a daytime nap?

Livingoffcoffee · 02/01/2020 15:53

Thanks for the reply @redwoodmazza
I couldn't decide if it was an association with the back rubbing, as it doesn't seem to help when he wakes in the middle of the night?

We've been out shopping in London today, so only managed a short catnap in the buggy. So will be a good test tonight to see if less daytime sleep makes a difference! 🤞🏻

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redwoodmazza · 02/01/2020 16:05

Fingers crossed!

Engard · 02/01/2020 22:25

I understand your frustration! Don't feel like you're alone, a lot of babies still wake up at that time of night! My daughter was 12 months when she first slept through 🙌🏻 it was an amazing night ❤️

My advice would be to gradually increase the amount of time you wait before you go into him. Try and give him some time to settle himself first. Good luck xx

Engard · 02/01/2020 22:25

I mean *wake up at that age

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