11 month refusing all sleep

[TiredMum01]

Need some advice please.

My little one has just turned 11 months. She can self settle (with dummy) so normally for naps and bedtime she goes in her cot, we walk out and leave her to it and she’s normally asleep in about 10 mins.

Her schedule was: nap at 9:30, naps anywhere from 30m - 1hr 20. Then afternoon nap would be 3 1/2 hours after she wakes so normally around 1:30-2 and would nap for an hour at least. Wake at 3 and bed at 7.

This week she’s been refusing mostly all naps and at bedtime. She cries when I put her in her cot, so I’ve taken her back downstairs and will try again 30 mins later but she will just cry. She will clearly be tired so I will try rocking her but she will fight in my arms. I’ve tried putting her down earlier, later. Some morning naps she has gone down ok for but then refuses an afternoon nap.

Today she had 5 min nap (in car) at 11 and then slept 2-3:30 (got her to fall asleep in car) so only had one real nap. All afternoon she was soo cranky and clearly tired so I think she does need 2 naps and not ready for 1.

This week she has been taking a lot more steps and practicing walking so I don’t know if this is effecting her naps but I don’t know what to do. We’ve been having to take her out in the car just to get her to sleep.

Just would like some advice on what I can do. Or if your little one went through a similar patch so I know I’m not alone. Feels exhausting trying to fight her to sleep all the time.

I'm torn with this.. So it could be sleep regression (this is anything between growing, teething ect and plain just not sleeping because its a phase), googling explains better. DS had many periods of this, it lasted somewhere between a week to a month sometimes but his bedtime routine would always return to normal.

Or she needs to drop one of those naps to just an afternoon or morning nap. So DS here, dropped his afternoon nap himself around her age, he now (very rarely) has a 11am/12pm nap until 1:30pm and then goes to bed at 7pm.

She's little, so it's a balance I guess. If she's over tired she's not going to sleep and if she's having too much you're going to have a hard time getting her down.

You could try drop a nap or even reduce it by half an hour so she has half an hour in the morning? Don't let her sleep past 3pm I'd say too. Just as a starting point?

Well none of my three ever had two naps in the day even one was a Herculean struggle

Is it teething?
Perhaps you need to pay around with the schedule and say let her nap in the morning for a shorter
Time in the pram or buggy?

Thank you for your reply. At first I thought it was a regression but when she’s been through regressions before she’s still gone down ok just not slept as long and woken more frequently.

Il try and reduce her morning nap and see if that helps. If not will try going to 1 nap. It’s good to hear your little one dropped his afternoon nap around the same age as I thought it was too early.

@TiredMum01

Hes 2 and a half now, he I'd say gets up at 7am (8am if I'm lucky) and I will occasionally get him to nap from 11am or 12pm (tbh I'm pregnant right now, and he's a cuddler so I'm finding it a bit hard to cuddle him and carry him up to his bed).

But yeah he did wean himself off it around her age, he always had a morning nap at 10am so I just moved it up an hour. Lately I've reduced it, he seems to have taken to it as hell wake himself after 1.5/2 hours.

I reread, I think I'd try reduce the afternoon by half an hour rather than stop a nap. X

@MissPepper8

Thank you. I’m going to try and reduce one of the naps. If that doesn’t help I will try and push her morning nap back to 11 and hopefully she would have 1 long nap. It is good to know that yours dropped to 1 nap around this time. I didn’t think it was until much later. Thanks for your repkws

TiredMum01 That's OK 😊, me and DH wrestled this for ages with DS it was really frustrating not to know what to do. I think they're all different. My neice who's 20 months won't nap at all and then gets days where her nursery get her to sleep for 4 hours.