Please help me with my ds of 10 mths and his poor sleep

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Ds was a great sleeper up until 4 mths but since then it has gone down hill and now at 10 mths I am getting desperate.

He is put to bed around 7;30 each night after bath, cuddle, bottle and he will go down after bit of protest. However he wakes nearly every night around 10 and thenit starts. Offer him drink and cuddle but he sreams until he gets a boob in his mouth. He doesn't want a feed just for comfort. He used to take a dummy but now spits it and screams. A few night a go tried c/c but by 1am and hysterical ds resorted to letting him come into our bed, a cuddle was not enough, would not settle until he had boob in his mouth ( not hungry btw)

Dh does not want him in ur bed, my mther keeps saying to let him scream and that he is testing us but is awful just seeing him so hysterical.

lOVE ds so much but lack of sleep and work part time feeling cannot cope with lack of sleep much longer and do not want to feel resentment toward ds. Mus tmention that ds will not settle with dh holds his arms out for me.

Sorry forlong post -any advice greatly appreciated

anyone??

What happens after 10pm? Does he wake up regularly?

DS stopped needing bf to go to sleep very recently (he's 9.5 months), I'd like to think that I had something to do with it but to be honest I think that he just decided he didn't need it anymore! I would bf him to sleep but then take my boob out before he fell asleep, eventually he stopped needing the bf. He is still a nightmare sleeper though he wakes up all the time unless I am lying right next to him and even then he wakes up quite a lot and squeals until I stroke him.

Sorry that's not much help!

Hi,

well after waking at 10 he starts crying, so go to him and try and settle him back down with a drink, cuddle etc, but trouble is that doesn't work like it used to do. He now wants comfort suck and will not give up until he gets one. Have tried sush pat, pupd, c/c but he jsut gets hysterical until he has the boob.

Whilst am happy to bf he he wants feed cannot let him confort suck all night.

my son did the same at around that age i think they associate mif they cry you will run all you can do is go in maybe give a dummy and say bed time shhh and leave the room as the more you comfort him the more he will cry as he knows you wioll come try and get your dp to deal with it so that he cant smeell your milk or give him milk in a bottle and it is a case of leaving them which is very hard i struggled to do that but it worked if you know all else is well it is attention you could make bedtime a bit later to tire him properly

it is all trial and error my ds slept well in his bed 2.4 now but all of a sudden hit 2 and will get in our bed in the night but having to try and get him out of it as it has become a habit as wilol going into your ds every time he cries for your attention could he be teething or have wind?

once established all is well you will have to just leave him to cry or he will assosiate crying to having your attention and boob

agree about trial and error, i know that it will not last for ever but can be so draining. I know that when he is a teenager will look back and smile when cannot get him out of bed

ds will not take dummy now so we are trying to get him to cuddle a soft toy for comfort when he wakes

All I can say is "this too shall pass". I had my ds in the bed (sleeping on my chest!!) until I was so heavily pregnant the blood rushed to his head! It was the only way to keep him settled at night. I started bring a bottle into the bed and just sort of managed to get him sucking that rather than boob. Now he's 2.4 and sleeps all night in his own bed although he does still wake most nights for a very diluted bottle.