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Help me end my co-sleeping nightmare!

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Cheeseandpickle1 · 05/12/2019 13:26

Hi parents I have been Co-sleeping with both of my sons from birth. DS1 is 3yro and DS2 is 1yro. We recently put two beds in their bedroom for them to share. I have also put a cot in there too so that there’s plenty of options for the 1yro.

The 3yro is becoming even more clingy at night times and I think he gets jealous when he sees my arm around the baby. He says “please mum I want to cuddle you” I try to explain to him there’s not enough room for 3 of us in a single bed, on a thin mattress! It’s always a battle but he will after a long moan end up top and tailing with us.
Although the 1yro wants to be in my arms the whole night.

Last night I didn’t fall asleep till 6am! Because the baby kept waking, which is often common for him. As you can imagine 3 people in one bed, we are often waking eachother up frequently.

If I do manage to disappear and get into my own bedroom I give it around 10Mins before they both wake and cry for me. They are both so strong willed and will scream and scream until I have no choice but to come to them and get back in bed with them.

I’m eager for them to stay in the same room together as I think they would be a great source of comfort towards eachother.

I just really need to know how I can get them both to settle themselves without needing to fall asleep from my touch. I’m seriously at my wits end, I’m constantly getting sick from the lack of sleep and decreased immune system.

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Devaki · 05/12/2019 13:29

If they've co-slept with you from birth you can't expect them to sleep in their own room without issues.

Windygate · 05/12/2019 13:37

Is there room to put both beds together? Then they could share the sleeping space. It's still going to be a challenging transition though.

Cheeseandpickle1 · 20/12/2019 08:54

Devaki
That’s clearly why I’m asking for advice, no need pointing out the obvious.

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Cheeseandpickle1 · 20/12/2019 08:56

Windygate

There’s a pull out bed that fits under the bottom bunk. Although they can both share the bottom bunk it’s rather big enough. They just won’t sleep without me in the room.

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mclover · 20/12/2019 11:11

I'd get a sleep trainer - DC (3 years old) was in our bed for a year, I couldn't see a way of it stopping. Sleep trainer gave me a plan to follow and within 4 days DC slept all night in their own bed. And have done so for the last 6 months!!! I feel so much better, like I've got my brain back and my energy for life back.

Cheeseandpickle1 · 20/12/2019 12:57

mclover
Thank you for your advice. I will call around!

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