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3-year-old waking up screaming bloody murder

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clippyclippy · 05/12/2019 13:22

For the last few weeks, my eldest son (who's never been a good sleeper) has started waking up at least once a night, often twice, absolutely screaming. It's an instant scream, angry in emotion. He kicks his legs violently in frustration. If I try my usual soothing methods of rubbing back or hair, he screams at me and gets worse as soon as I touch him. If I just sit there next to him, he gets more and more angry over time. Sometimes he's screaming things like "did you take the [something], yes or no?" as if he's been dreaming. Often I can't tell what it is he's saying because he's screaming it. If I try to pick him up he goes mad.

All I can do is keep sshhing and trying every couple of minutes to see if he'll let me rub his back or pick him up, and eventually, after 20-30 minutes, he lets me. Then he finally calms down and I lay down next to him and he eventually falls asleep. The whole ordeal knocks an hour off his (and my) sleep and it sometimes happens twice in a night. It's so exhausting! If I ask him about it the next day, he doesn't remember it. I ask why did you cry last night and he asks "when did I cry"? "Why"?

Any ideas what this is or what I should do about it?? Has anyone ever experienced similar

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Ky31 · 09/12/2019 22:22

I don't have an answer to why but I can say for sure you're not alone.

My 3yo does this occasionally. Each episode lasts about 40 minutes during which time she wants to be held but simultaneously not touched.

It's very stressful as there seems to be nothing we can say or do to calm her down, she just suddenly calms herself like nothing happened and will go back to sleep.

I read somewhere that it can be triggered by a change in their routine, but for my daughter I'm yet to put my finger on it!

DecemberSnow · 09/12/2019 22:24

This is a night terror.

Have a google...

minipie · 09/12/2019 22:39

My DC2 did the same at that age. Night terrors I think.

The only thing that sometimes snapped mine out of it was showing her photos on my phone (I know!!)

fuzzymoon · 09/12/2019 22:41

It sounds like a night terror. You're best not to wake them just stay near to make sure they're safe

Sunshinegirl82 · 09/12/2019 22:42

www.nhs.uk/conditions/night-terrors/

Gibbonsgibbonsgibbons · 09/12/2019 22:54

Night terrors - horrible for you but he won’t remember
Being over tired makes them more likely & if they happen at the same time each night you can disturb them before it happens to prevent them (although mine never settled into a pattern to be able to do this)

They will likely stop as suddenly as the started but it is so so horrible Flowers

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